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Old 03-07-2013, 21:56   #91
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Someone has to be the captain/skipper, but it isn't always the guy. And it isn't always the guy who buys the boat. I know a couple of couples where it's the wife who knows more about sailing, and the wife who bought the boat. Really.
Aint that the truth...
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In North Carolina Women are not allowed to be Admirals. Or to leave the house.
Are you mad? How the hell do you think I get my kids to soccer/school/dentist or get my groceries bought? I mean there's guys that haven't caught on yet in the neighborhood but most of them get their secretaries or mistresses to handle it. I like to think of myself as progressive. Early adopter....

Paaleease......

In all seriousness, I think the admiral thing may be generational. Maybe not. Ill let other couples sort out whether it works for them and whether a woman considers it pejorative or tongue in cheek obeisance. None of my business.

I have always found it irritating personally, but may be the badass babes I roll with. My wife is a southern belle for sure, and has zero interest in chain in command on our little ship. She is a guest, and is treated as one. May be different one day, but my path to marital bliss was to learn to singlehand. When she is on board, she helps out plenty but there's no pressure for her to do anything, and I involve her as much as she wants.

I'm seriously tickled by this thread because it has irked me for some time, and I just thought I was the only one.

Just one moment here while I adjust the fan so that it is blowing on my lovely guest here. She has been incredibly $upportive of my madness over the years. She holds down the fort while I go off on my adventures, so when she is on the boat, I take great pleasure in making it very special and tailored to her needs. I'm thrilled to have her on board for the next week....with no kids

Happy US Independence Day captains, admirals, mates and masters.

Livin the dream....
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Old 03-07-2013, 22:17   #93
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Are you mad? How the hell do you think I get my kids to soccer/school/dentist or get my groceries bought? I mean there's guys that haven't caught on yet in the neighborhood but most of them get their secretaries or mistresses to handle it. I like to think of myself as progressive. Early adopter....

Paaleease......

In all seriousness, I think the admiral thing may be generational. Maybe not. Ill let other couples sort out whether it works for them and whether a woman considers it pejorative or tongue in cheek obeisance. None of my business.

I have always found it irritating personally, but may be the badass babes I roll with. My wife is a southern belle for sure, and has zero interest in chain in command on our little ship. She is a guest, and is treated as one. May be different one day, but my path to marital bliss was to learn to singlehand. When she is on board, she helps out plenty but there's no pressure for her to do anything, and I involve her as much as she wants.

I'm seriously tickled by this thread because it has irked me for some time, and I just thought I was the only one.

Just one moment here while I adjust the fan so that it is blowing on my lovely guest here. She has been incredibly $upportive of my madness over the years. She holds down the fort while I go off on my adventures, so when she is on the boat, I take great pleasure in making it very special and tailored to her needs. I'm thrilled to have her on board for the next week....with no kids

Happy US Independence Day captains, admirals, mates and masters.

Livin the dream....

Well I think you hit the nail on the head. No woman wants to spend the day cranking winches on the headsheet, etc., only to be called "admiral."

I would LOVE to have a fellow thrilled to have me on board, working hard to make it enjoyable for me as well as for him -- and calling me "admiral" would pretty much put a dent in it.

Just call me "bossy pants" while you're at it ...
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Well I think you hit the nail on the head. No woman wants to spend the day cranking winches on the headsheet, etc., only to be called "admiral."

I would LOVE to have a fellow thrilled to have me on board, working hard to make it enjoyable for me as well as for him -- and calling me "admiral" would pretty much put a dent in it.

Just call me "bossy pants" while you're at it ...
Hey 'Bossy Pants'.... get a wiggle on...
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Hey 'Bossy Pants'.... get a wiggle on...

ROTFL -- SORRY, Captain -- didn't the Admiral pull that anchor up fast enough for you?

C'mon up here and stand on the rode. It will help me. Really.

Oh dear, a loop. Oh my how did it get around your ankle?

Oops. Sorry -- I just couldn't hold it any longer!
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Plain patronising.
Haven't come across a woman yet who likes the term.
No idea why men here persist in using it .
I hear you that's why I keep my women in her place and call her the swab!!!!
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I hear you that's why I keep my women in her place and call her the swab!!!!
That term I can handle
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That term I can handle
I had the feeling a good salty Seaworthy lass would understand
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When I used to work offshore. Any boat that operated for more than 12 hours at a time, had to have two captains.
A first captain and a second captain. (First Captain is ultimately responsible)What is wrong with two people sharing responsibility? Whoever is on watch is in charge.
If I was ever woken up by my girlfriend and told to do something, I do not think that I would question her. You must trust the other captain!!!
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Is this just a sailing thing? We r small power boaters but even our friends with bigger boats don't use the term. I personally refer 2 myself as 1st mate because usually hubby is driving and navigating and I'm doing everything else...except pulling the anchor, (no windlass). I'm on the helm while he pulls the anchor. Anyway when we had our boys aboard I sat on my butt while one of them was 1st mate.
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One day while on the boat I called my wife "Deck Candy". She replied at once..."That's Admiral Deck Candy to you Bucko !".
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Well, you've got women here telling you that it makes things worse. Fellows can listen or not, but it defuses nothing ...
Yup. As per my post you quoted, I find the debate interesting, though I've never referred to a partner as admiral myself, and I provided my understanding of the reasoning behind the term.
Seems to me there's often enough not listening on both sides to go around


Re: owner of a boat being male or female, it is certainly possible, less common however. I still think it's a generational thing to get so fussed about it If a couple tells me the woman owns the boat I'm working on, or is in charge of the decisions required, regardless of who initially contracted us, then she gets the questions about what they want done, and the bill. As always both genders get an equal explanation and any questions they have for me answered.



As for myself, I'd love to have a friend with a boat who wanted to fix their toilet, engine, rigging, do the bottom work, provisioning and pay the moorage.

Don't care about their gender, can be male, female or in transition to points between the two. I'd just love to go sailing.
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I hear you that's why I keep my women in her place and call her the swab!!!!

That's actually funny and cute, esp. if she doesn't know a lot about sailing.

And the difference is, it focuses on sailing, not personality.
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