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Old 03-07-2013, 09:25   #46
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In my experience its a US thing... they Love a Title... and a Rank...
That's why everyone's a Captain... and why they gotta call the Missus the Admiral...
Real Admirals don't usually go to sea... and on the rare occasions they do... they do little or nothing... for them its a cruise
Over this side were mainly just sailors or seaman... unless they're a 'Boathook up de Butt' RYC member...
Believe its something to do with being 'Institutionalised'....
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When we first started sailing a few decades ago we decided that if there was any disagreement whatsoever about what each thought best or wanted to do, we simply took the safest option without any argument or resentment. This has worked perfectly for us - the safest option has always been clearcut.
We use the same system. Rule #1 is that if either partner wants to reef, we reef.

The only thing that consistently resists consensus, otherwise, is whether the cockpit table needs another coat of varnish.
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Old 03-07-2013, 09:34   #48
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The only thing that consistently resists consensus, otherwise, is whether the cockpit table needs another coat of varnish.
Well, using our system, it is obviously safer having an unslippery unvarnished table, so that decision would stand .
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Seems like a touchy subject for some. It would seem to be a private issue between couples. I would never presume to address a female aboard another vessel as "Admiral" unless instructed by said female to do so. I try to address people as they wish to be addressed as a respect to them. If someone introduces themselves as John, or Joan, then I use John or Joan, never Johnny, or Joany. If you find it offensive to hear someone address their own partner as Admiral, that is your problem not theirs.
This is spot on.
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In my experience its a US thing... they Love a Title... and a Rank...

Real Admirals don't usually go to sea... and on the rare occasions they do... they do little or nothing... for them its a cruise
Uh...not true. Perhaps one should hold one's tongue about that which he knows nothing.
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Uh...not true. Perhaps one should hold one's tongue about that which he knows nothing.
ROTFLMBO......
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Old 03-07-2013, 09:59   #52
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My MBA wife of 36 years bought and has a T-shirt that says, "My husband may be the Captain, but I am the Admiral". I guess I should stop introducing her as my "first wife", too. She thinks the Admiral thing is hilarious and has often been asked by women around the marina and the BVI's where she got that T-shirt. We're too busy having fun together to worry about being politically correct around the docks.
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In my experience its a US thing... they Love a Title... and a Rank...
That's why everyone's a Captain... and why they gotta call the Missus the Admiral...
Boatman61

I have asked the captain of the American 25 foot yacht next to me, he has checked with his chief liaisons officer and he has assured me your accusations are without foundation
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I have asked the captain of the American 25 foot yacht next to me, he has checked with his chief liaisons officer and he has assured me your accusations are without foundation
Ahahhhh... a sense of humour at last...
But seriously... don't know any Brits personally.. or EU folk that use this 'Admiral' stuff...
1st encountered it on CF a few years back before it became quite the international Forum it is today..
But there ya go... 'Can please some folk alla de time etc etc...
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Re: Admiral?

it is a fact in a court of law.. and not really subject to dispute so no matter how you individually operate your vessel, there is a Captain.

Note, i am not discussing the mechanics of how a couple operate here, merely simply stating a fact. When i did have a sailing partner we were in fact true partners and i never referred to her either as Admiral or First Mate. She would not have cared either way but I was however, the Captain of record.

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That's a "fact" I'll have to dispute. We don't have a captain/crew system on our boat, having long ago decided that the concept of captain is archaic when applied to our situation. We're not a navy ship, and we don't rely on patriarchy to keep order.

My partner is neither above or below me, at least in terms of rank. Rather, my partner is a partner. The boat is owned in partnership, and decisions are based upon a consensus of both partners.

If you envision one partner as outranking the other, you may need to rethink the concept of partner.
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every time a "women" type thread comes along I understand why so many men sailors are alone on their boats

Then again I also understand why so men chose to spend time alone on tghe boat.
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"... unless they're a 'Boathook up de Butt' RYC member...
Believe its something to do with being 'Institutionalised'....
Way bigger then a boathook ...

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Way booger then a boathook ...

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Google says, that if a boathook and an Admiral is involved it's called Pegging........

.....no requirement to wear a RYC blazer though.
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In our relationship, I'm in charge of important things , like our household policy on relations with China, and so forth, my wife looks after and is in charge of the more mundane things , like finance , lending ( to me) , budgets , energy , travel , domestic comforts , etc etc.

Outside of that important role that I do , I seem, to moonlight as a draft horse as I'm always , taking that over there or get that from over here !!
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In North Carolina Women are not allowed to be Admirals. Or to leave the house.
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