We could not have been more foolish.
We fell in love I with her beauty and wit and she because I represented the exotic, adventurous and romantic and she said
she wanted to leave and sail to the corners of the earth but
she left a large traditional stable household where she had built a life for twenty plus years around a lot of elaborate and for her rewarding routines and rituals for dressing, doing laundry
, personal hygene. She left behind large closets, one specifically for shoes alone and a life of appliance aided ease. I bought up in size to a boat which was too large for my taste even at 32' that was a good value but also contained things I did not want,as in water
heater, pressure water
, 2 shower
features and added extra storage
All this adds up to two people whose dreams were far to at odds with their real
desires and natures and after a long and difficult period of attempted adjustment with very much compromise on both ends we are very near walking away rather than sailing away.
I dunno if this would help anyone... I am not a solo sailor by nature and my own take on Hal Roth's statement that the best crew is your wife is that the best person to share the voyaging with is someone you love. Elsewise I say F&%#k the pink and blue stuff... we all have our skills temperments and needs... mutual flexibilty, patience and don't forget the PLEASURE
P.S. Endoftheroad: Dreadlocks have to be kept clean...Rasta don't like no dirty hair and the maintenance
of dreads is no easy business... this has been one of our challenges...