Originally Posted by Serena
Fantastic quote! I'd nearly forgotten it, good choice.
"You drive. You drive. I think there's something wrong with me."
Thanks for reviving this thread. What a read!
Here is what I would like on a boat.
The Boat - Assurance and confidence I am on a safe and well found boat. Going to sea is a bit scary
A voice - I'd like to share in the decisions of the boat. Like where it goes and how it works and what gadget I might save up for and add on next. If I don't know how something works and she does I'd like her to explain it to me on equal terms and teach me, not lecture me. And I don't want her to assume I don't know what she is talking about. I'd like to drive half the time pulling sheets
is half the fun! And I am pretty sure the more I drive the better I get at it.
Duties - I am not the mechanic
and fixer of all things. I'd like her to learn some maintenance
stuff. Electics aren't that hard or maybe head maintenance
or oil changes. I'll teach her. In exchange for her doing crapper maintenance I have no issues cooking
and doing laundry
. As long as we keep communicating and both of us feel we are sharing the work. I like a happy boat.
- A comfortable and clean place to take my daily dump. I don't mind pumping a handle so it need not be electric
. And I use as much paper as I need. I dont need anyone nagging me about that. My plumbing
is different than a girls plumbing
- thank God!
- I like a daily shower in fresh water usually in the evening so I am fresh in bed
. I hate sleeping sticky. I like to shave, never liked wearing the bearded salty sailor look, and have no problem with a FPC (face, pits, crotch) sponge bath in the morning - if the day goes right I'll be swimming soon anyway. I am not opposed to skipping a day especially if passage
making. Make me 20-30 liters a day and let's move on to other issues.
- I'd like a place to store my gear
. I realize that space is limited so I will be creative with wardrobe and shoes to give various looks and minimize what I bring along. I'd like to dress up for my significant other, especially if we go to a beach party so I need a couple sets of "go to town" clothes.
Personal Care - I have some personal body care items that make me presentable - especially if we get invited to a beach party. Beard trimmer, nose hair trrimmer and of course a dop kit with all the toiletries I like, shampoo, after shave, nail clippers etc. I'd like my own space to store this stuff
Stores - I like milk, meat and the occasional chocolate sweet. Cool drinks and some ice are heavenly so a freezer/reefer would be awesome!
Communication - I'd like to be able to easily keep up with friends and family
. I realize we will be on the hook in fantastic places at times and out of touch but I wanna skype, upload pictures, facebook and email
when we are in marina range and I don't wanna have to be a rocket scientist to make it work.
Entertainment - I'd like to snuggle up with my SO and watch a movie
once in a while. I am not an idiot, I can run laptop
movies when not in port or stream movies when we have a connection. I'd like to play them on a nice 30 inch lcd but not mandatory. Tunes and speakers are vital. Oh and I shouldn't have to be a computer programmer to watch a movie
. Divx, drivers and all that stuff is Greek to me. I love books
. EBooks are cool but some things just work better on paper. Need a bookshelf to call my own
Partner - I like my partner to be clean and fresh and when she dresses up for a party I love it when the Salty Dogs
stuck in the 60's gape and wonder how in the hell I got so lucky. I am a "western" guy and don't like stinky, hairy, "boat" women. I sat next to one on a shuttle and that gal, while pleasant could gag a maggot. My SO is a natural beauty and when she puts the "warpaint" on its just another level. The good news is her warpaint takes up two boxes the size of a spare inverter
. Hair, nails, face - the whole drama. Its a fair trtade of space. In regards to nails, Anjou is right. Nothing precludes her doing her nails. She keeps them a bit shorter than she likes because nothing hurts like breaking a nail off at the root while sheeting. Long hair? Love it! She does too. Nothing I can think of precludes it.
There are probably a couple things I have left out. All of the above is a personal thing. Basically, I personally don't want to grow my beard long, smell like an animal and live like a homeless person.
I shared this list with my SO. She wanted everything on the list too - except maybe the last item. She never reacts well when I cross dress. - especially in stinky, hairy "boat woman" mode. If we want the same things on the list he only conclusion I can reach is that I am a woman. And more astonishing to me is that I am a lesbian!
Emotional needs -
So the fly in the ointment is that my SO is the most complex system on the boat. But then again so am I. I hope I have a lifetime to study and improve my interactions with this system. I know I will never master it in any sense of the word.
Oh and to the neanderthals. If you think finding the perfect partner is about finding the unspoiled country where "women" are domesticated, think again. One post said something like, "a country where a woman will appciate being rescued into a liveaboard
lifestyle..." That just translates to, "currently lives as a despereate homeless person and would appreciate the upgrade to slightly less desparate, slighlty less homeless person." Trust me. Find her, bring her aboard. Don't expect it to last.
As far as finding the flower in the crabgrass comment in regards to American women? The better hunting grounds are not delineated by country. They are delineated by proximity to boating
. Hang out a lot where boaters hang out. At least you will find women that share a boating
Verbosely yours (as always)