I learned from reading and making mistakes
on my own boat and I dont recommend it at all. Dont neglect reading and videos, but take some lessons and your learning curve will be much shorter. Crew on as many different boats as you can, because each skipper
will have a little different methods and you can figure out what works for you. Something that is often a sticky subject is couples learning together, when one is more enthused than the other. I think (just my opinion) that it is better to have the wife,girlfriend/S.O. take lessons separately .A Newbie skipper trying to teach someone how to sail when the skipper barely knows what is going on can put huge strains on a relationship. My opinions come from enough deep water
miles to have done a circumnavigation
(havent done that) and years of living aboard
in the cruising community. Of course like everything on this forum, it is just an opinion. ____Grant.