Good to have you on the forum, lots of very knowledgeable people post here and anyone can pick up a lot of information.
I have known quite a few people in your situation.. it works for some and doesn't for others but that is how life is in anything. I would suggest you consider taking sailing classes
yourself.. but not necessarily at the same time or in the same class as your husband.
Many if not most newer sailors tend to get the Captain
Bly syndrome with their crews.. wife included... this frequently doesn't last long as we tend to learn who the Admiral actually is and who is the Capitan.
You can often tell when you have turned the corner when the less physical person actually takes the helm
is things like docking
and setting anchor
... and the more physical person does the heavy work... newer "skippers" can't seem to find this as a practical thing feeling "only" they can be at the Helm
when in fact the person "in command" is often Not the person at the Helm of a ship.
Don't try to force yourself to "love" sailing it is something that will either work its way into your sole or will not. You can still enjoy it with out it being the "center" of your thought. Plans always change as knowledge is gained... work within your knowledge and ability.
While it may not be a smart thing to bring up... buying
a boat before you know how to effectively use it may not be the best thing to do. How do you really know what to look for? You and your husband may avoid significant mistakes
in boat selection if you first learn to sail via a qualified school
and take the opportunities to sail with others on different types of boats... then figure out what is important to you and your sailing plans and base your boat purchase
on those factors... less chance of being disapointed... boats are not very fluid in resale time and value except fluid always flows down hill.