Many people spend a lifetime following some sort of life invented for them by parents, teachers, wise old sages, role models etc...
I had a friend named Sam. Sam was a "strange" duck by societal standards. Lived alone, played tennis, would drink a few beers, but one of those "loners" who would head
back to his 2 room modest apartment by himself every night.
He and I got along great and were good friends as long as I didn't "demand" too much from him or get him out of his comfort zone. He never had a steady girlfirend but I could confirm he wasn't gay
Years went by. People would ask Sam when he was getting married all the time. Sam would brush it off - "Oh, Someday" - "Haven't met anyone who'll put up with me". I never asked him - none of my business and probably why I was one of Sam's (3-4?) chosen friends. People would ask me if Sam was gay
. They couldn't understand why he wasn't playing the game
just like they were, and I was for that matter.
One day after I had known Sam about 18 years I finally asked him why he wasn't married. He whipped his checkbook out of his back pocket and showed me a checking account balance of just under a million bucks. (Of course it was an interest bearing account) He explained that was the ready fund and his retirement money
He said something quite poignant like, "Why get permanently involved with someone who just wants to steer you from your dreams, change you from who you are, drain you financially to buy sh*t you don't need and tell you how to dress."
track of Sam over the last few years. At the age of 52 he quit working moved up to the northern part of the Philippines
and hangs out at a Scuba diving
camp. He has periodic live in girlfriends has dramatically expanded his social life and as far as I know is loving life. He was just on a mission to stop working at 50 and did a hell of a job at it.
I need to look him up and convince him to buy a Scuba
boat - LOL
Bearphish - I suspect being a jumper you are familiar with less travelled roads. As a pilot I could never understand the type who'd jump but as you can tell I never judge. Follow your road and keep us posted.