marleman, I'll add something in a day or so. I'm a guy that would like to get out there myself (partly because I'm the sort that likes to think things through & modern lifestyles don't have much at all to do with thinking anything through).
I'm not with anybody atm that I'll ask to join me, maybe by the time I get going but either way, I'm going.
I can say now that I can look back on past relationships & know beyond any question which ones wouldn't have worked in the confines of a small boat. With the couple of "maybes" I'm thinking of women that read a lot or play a mean game
of chess or are otherwise able to entertain themselves. Women that don't freak over things like a navigational glitch or mechanical problem but instead know that glitches happen and that skills resolve them. Women that are good at making do with & enjoying what they have instead of wistfully looking over the fence (rail), etc.
I don't mean to sound harsh about women & hope that I don't. I suppose some residual bits of hostility may leak out from time to time, I'm fairly freshly single
again & she got my toys.
What I'm really saying is that men
are the wanderers & explorers, women are by nature nesters. This isn't at all a bad arrangement, it's worked well for a while now & will continue to if we continue to adapt.
As a couple do you both have the ability to understand each otherís natural inclinations? It sounds like you're plenty willing to try nesting on the boat, will he understand & take it in stride when "window treatments" appear in his conveyance of exploration ? Will you understand when he's still tinkering with the rigging
a year after it looked a-ok to you ?
I'd just say listen to each other & maybe listen more to what's not being said than to what is being said. We all have our unique motivations & couples that "face the same way", whatever the individual impulses are, work ... they just do.
Hmmm, maybe I landed on something there ... disregard the "in a day or so" thing.