Originally Posted by theonecalledtom
I frequent this forum infrequently at times,
I think we should promote "infrequent" to a verb and we should all understand what it means.
"I infrequent this forum." should be a phrase readily understood
- The conservation of words is satisfying. That's because I am a great conservationist...
Originally Posted by Reckless
Some posts yes I agree the poster was outright being rude, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. There are also some armchair cruisers that feel they know everything based on what they read in a book or magazine that I have seen pipe up. Good rule of thumb is if you don't have any actual experience with the Original topic, stay out of it.
I personally don't agree with this one. You state everyone is entitled to their opinion, as long as they don't share it if they have no first hand experience. Hmmmm...
The dialog is the key, IMHO. Out of the mouths of babes is a useful concept
. Someone may post something that is inaccurate. Several things can happen.
- The collective experience of our members kicks in and the person learns something. Had they not expressed the opinion, they could continue on with their misinformation
- The conversation takes a turn into an area it may not have otherwise and everyone gets to share some experience
- Someone dogpiles on the poster and the thread gets obnoxious, rude, moderated and ultimately closed
Treat every comment as you would like your comment in person to be treated (with civility) and the forum is a happier place. Be tolerant of others lack of knowledge and don't take it personally.
We understand that the person who digs their heels in and vigorously defends an indefensible position can be very frustrating to deal with.
My favorite phrase at that point is "OK. I respect your opinion. Let's agree to disagree."
I am not harmed, my position is unchanged and if I am right there are probably others that agree with me. If one person is going to insist on running around with incorrect information who am I to save them? I can't save everyone (anyone?) from themself. Why lose sleep?
The argument for pursuing these fights so vigorously that we see most often in the back room is, "Well it's ridiculous that CF should allow incorrect information to remain in the thread. You (moderators) must remove the incorrect posts!"
There is incorrect information all over the internet
. The moderators are not the arbiters of truth. If our small (very small) amount of collective wisdom was (mis)used by us trying to be the champions of truth, you guys would string us up and we would have pretty bad reputations for not allowing open dialog.
So we allow untruth - even when we see it. We just don't allow anyone to be mean to each other if we can help it.
The discerning reader can pretty much pick the truth out of most threads and that's pretty much how it works.
Originally Posted by ROBERT G
Every "community," online or otherwise, develops a culture. People who don't take time to study that culture and become familiar with its mores / norms prior to injecting themselves, without sensitivity, into its discourse are asking for trouble.
When an intelligent human being goes to a party of strangers, do they jump in and start talking loudly about whatever they like, and then cry foul or act shocked at the responses they might get? Or do they typically assess the sitiation and culture in the room before becoming a vocal participant in the evolving discussions?
Some people visit the party, determine pretty quickly there is no intelligent life and move on to a new party - That's why we always need new members