I can't speak to the experience of those who grew up in affluence, but for me, I grew up in the 50's and 60's in a large blue collar family
. Everything was a struggle and (as my momma used to say), "we didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of
." As a result, I wanted better for my daughter and wanted her to have all the things I didn't have. I had to wait until I was an adult and could buy my own car, she had one at 16. I didn't get to go to college until my late 20's and paid for it myself while working full time, she got to go on our dime while living in the dorm. I sewed all my own clothes from age 12, she shopped at the mall. You get the picture. It was the same with all my friends who share my same background.
I think the tendency with those in our generation is also to try and be fixers. We see someone with a problem and we want to fix it. The problem is that the kids
don't learn how to fix their own problems that way. Hell, sometimes we're so far ahead of the fixin' game
that we have it fixed before they even become fully aware they have the problem.
Fortunately, despite my best efforts, I did not manage to completely ruin my daughter. She grew up to be an incredibly hard working woman who is now a single
mom raising two kids
with no help from a dead beat dad. She makes me proud every day. A lot of my friends, however, can't tell the same story. They still have their entitled young'uns sleeping in their basement so they can drive a new car and have the latest gadgets while still asking mom and dad for gas money
. Sadly, they have no idea that this is a problem.