Originally Posted by captain58sailin
It feels like the convention family has kind of dissolved and evolved into a different form.......... I feel a disconnection from even my own siblings,
we are all so busy with our own little lives that we don't stay in touch. I have one sibling that even lives in the same town as I do, and I let her know when I am coming in for time off, yet we don't get together.
You know why people who opt out of shore life and go cruising are happy? Because they use what they want from shore life, internet
, etc and disregard the rest.
They get in touch with what REALLY is important. Self reliance, time for each other and self respect. They dont want to impose on anyone else. (except for that jerk on a jetSki yesterday)
Our busy ness with life is not with life.... it is with what we get occupied
with, what we think is important. I work in a system which requires me to document EVERYTHING that is said and done........(medical).... and its not for the benefit of the patient, its to CoverMyAss and the bottom of the medical
authority. It wastes so much time.
The 60s came in two parts
. The naivetee and innocence of the first few years followed by the acceptance of harsh realities of the latter.
Families would sit and eat meals
together, the evening meal mainly, no matter what their schedule, and discuss the events
of the day. Bonds were recemented and roles were clearly in place.
In the early part of the 60s, Parents were respected. The second part of the 60s saw the wild bi polar swing to publically denouncing ALL values, all family connections and open defiance of parental control.
In the first half of the 60s... there was a sense of eternity, of safety
would play out on their bikes with their friends, fall off, go home, mum would patch us up and then we could go right back to playing out.
After 1966, (world cup for Brits).. it was like the board got swept clean. TV got going and for us all, the horror of Vietnam
was in our face.
All of a sudden, this anger and frustration exploded in expression. Watching innocent people burn with USA made Napalm in your living room was hard to take.. along with the knowledge that the war was a war without reason.
The wars and violence in real life started to divide the populace within countries, and also families. Older people could not understand how their kids who benefited from their allegiance to a country and whom were at college, spoke out against the acts of their leaders. For the kids part, they could not understand why their parents would continue supporting such injustice.
When the 70s came....... for those old enough to start their own families and lives, the 60s suddenly closed. Sadly, also the close family chats of the early 60s had changed forever. Belief and confidence in our countries were tinged with suspicion and distrust...... rightly so.
We had a new life after the 1960s...... but there was also a terrble cost to it. For those of us in our late 50s and 60s, we still carry the responsibility of helping to lose something so special, Yet....... it was not really our fault.
We cant regret. We cant. We were part of something bigger than ourselves and had no directions or instruction book of how to solve it. It didnt work. 'Da man" as Boatie calls the powers that be, are still in charge.
But something changed forever. And we never did get organised properly and never will.