Well, if you don't like it, there are infinite and unlimited places in cyberspace. Everyone should wander to those places they like best, and it's no ones place but your own to decide where.
I for one have a very different opinion about this forum. I think it's great! I have lots of interests in life and have participated in lots of different interest-driven forums
, and this is by far the best in terms of (a) having a really great mass of truly knowledeable people who are active participants; who (b) are willing to devote a LOT of time patiently sharing that knowledge. I have learned more from this resource than any other single source in all of my decades of sailing. The generosity of people here with their knowledge and time, and their patience with even the dumbest of newby questions (some of them asked by me) is just amazing. In that regard I would like to take the opportunity to thank Paul Blais, Nick of Jedi, Chief Engineer
, and a dozen other people from whom I have learned so much and had so much fun doing it.
As to thread drift -- that is the nature of every good conversation. When people gather together who enjoy talking with each other, one thing leads to another. Some of the most interesting things around here are the result of thread drift. Thank God for it.
As to the arguments -- that's also only good, in my opinion. You can't figure out any kind of hard question, if someone isn't challenging you. A good argument teases out all the best things you want to know. Besides that, it's fun.
If you're a "touchy feely kind of guy" and need some kind of social emotional reinforcement, well, maybe this isn't the right place. There are other, better sources for that, and none them online.
A very perceptive comment on thread drift is this, from Bash:
"But try not to think of these as your threads. A thread is just a thread. One idea leads to another, and sooner or later all good threads either have to drift or die."
Just so. You would want, even your child, to have his own ideas and take his own direction in life, right? Why not your thread? You should be pleased if you started a thread that got people talking among themselves, far beyond what you ever intended.