Originally Posted by Sea Dreaming
I'm not sure I can explain my thought very well but I am going to try.
The thing is, when others bash on your ideas a bit, it feels bad. It feels bad because you are not "fitting in". Therefore, the conformist in the room is yourself!
I'm not picking on anyone here. The above line applies to myself quite a bit! It's very much the human nature to want validation. Support from others is very validating. But the true genius of non-conformity is to be quite comfortable with being uncomfortable. It's realizing that others can only validate what they know. If they don't known it, they can't validate it. But that only reflects on them. Not you.
I think you're looking at it from the wrong side. Everything you said is true, but the problem isn't how the person getting bashed feels or accepts the bashing...
the problem is the people who feel they need to bash someone else who thinks outside of the box. Why? I never take it personally, they're arguing about the info in my post, which I don't take personally. 95% of the time, it turns out they misread my post, or just simply could not grasp what I clearly typed.
Are they insecure? Too stupid to understand just how brilliant the other person is? (Remember the history
stories about the theory of the earth being round, which planet rotated around which, the discovery of most of the laws of physics?) Even some of the most learned scientists of those eras were the loudest to shout about heresy and burning the "nonconformist" at the stake.
Why did they do it then? Probably a very strong need to "fit in" since history
was rife with examples of those who "stuck out" getting struck down, either by the senseless mob
or by the powers to be fearful of something new.
Sadly, human nature hasn't changed, they've just developed technology to more efficiently and quickly spread their disapproval or electronically lynch the nonconformist.
These days, the nonconformists could be someone who isn't politically correct, or who isn't afraid of those who routinely throw the racist label at the first hint of differing viewpoints. I'm especially disturbed by how vicious people are getting on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. I don't post on any of those social media platforms, but I'm amazed at the brazen assholes who spend their entire lives (apparently) jumping on someone with both feet at the slightest hint they may have done something out of the norm, like buying
300 presents for her kids
for Xmas. Why is it anyone else's concern? What makes them think it is even a topic for discussion? Who cares? It's her money
, her children
, her personal life, so stick your nose back on your face. Perhaps she shouldn't have shared the pic on Facebook, but the avalanche of hate dumped on her does not bode well for humanity (at least those who e-hated on her.)
This has been going on for eternity, it started in the town market and over the fence, now it spreads on texts and Twitter. This is why I call anyone who closes their mind and starts lynching someone online a "sheeple." Their posts don't reflect an honest opinion arrived at by rational thought, their posts are designed to show how they fit in by attacking others. They suck up to those they think are in power, and attack those whom they perceive as one of those on the fringe. They're easy to spot, just throw a little carefully worded bait out there and they're quick to jump on it to prove how conformist they are in a vain effort to fit in.
This is why I've often pointed out that, statistically speaking, 50% of the population is below average. Even average is pathetically low. Considering that some of the members of CF must be in the top 10% to be as well educated and as well regarded as they are in their chosen field (whether it's medicine, GPS
, programming, naval architecture, etc) sometimes it astonishes me when someone who knows virtually nothing questions a well regarded expert in the field. That explains why another one of my favorite sayings is, "Just because you bought a computer doesn't mean you should be posting
on the internet