Single Sailors Seeking Soul Mate Group

[Yachts66]

Well to be honest I think the whole virgin thing is way over rated, but to each his own I guess. I've always wondered where alah gets all those virgins for mindless terrorists anyways? I mean do they get recycled or what? Is there such a thing as a hymen repair specialist? Maybe in their heaven you can not only get boob implants but hymen implants as well? Just wonderin'.

Even if you don't plan on going through the ditch, I still think Costa Rica and Panama are your best bets. Don't forget Cocos Island, also called Treasure Island off the cost of CR. Dynamite place.

Thomas

[zeehag]

sounds good-- i will go thru --just not immediately--lol--unless i find a sugar crew lol....the rich soul wanting more than anything in life to traverse the canal in a worn out looking old formosa lol..

[Feral Cement]

Originally Posted by zeehag

hot keeps my blood flowing-i have a collagen disease which affects the arterial blood flow-- so i am seeking comfort.. alaska is too cold..this thing also keeps me from scuba and diving and some fun stuff--i can sail and i can do other fun stuff-- but i NEED warm water...onward ever souf-ward!!

So, a hot tub in Hell at high noon is just the ticket, eh? I've heard of hot chicks before, but this is a new level.

Chill, baby.

John

[zeehag]

Originally Posted by Feral Cement

So, a hot tub in Hell at high noon is just the ticket, eh? I've heard of hot chicks before, but this is a new level.

Chill, baby.

John

not looking for that much heat!!!! i am reasonable-- air 75-90ish, water 85+ an nice breezes all day,, coolish evenings--- 75-80 with gentle breezes....warm water....clear would be nice.

[speakeasy]

Originally Posted by Yachts66

Well to be honest I think the whole virgin thing is way over rated, but to each his own I guess. I've always wondered where alah gets all those virgins for mindless terrorists anyways? I mean do they get recycled or what? Is there such a thing as a hymen repair specialist? Maybe in their heaven you can not only get boob implants but hymen implants as well? Just wonderin'.

Even if you don't plan on going through the ditch, I still think Costa Rica and Panama are your best bets. Don't forget Cocos Island, also called Treasure Island off the cost of CR. Dynamite place.

Thomas

Well wonder no more, if you really were. I've read it was a service industry in NE Africa. Looks like it's come west.

Hymenoplasty – Hymen repair and hymen restoration surgery

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/features
/article734775.ece

[Yachts66]

So the mechanic shows up at long last. Got the engine running without too much difficulty.....then.....when we advance the throttle she dies, again and again and again. A perplexing problem for sure and clearly not one that will be resolved today, tomorrow and maybe not even this month.

So...decision time. I can't stick around here for weeks on end waiting for the engine to be made whole, too many commitments at home. So....sadly, I guess I'll head back home tomorrow or the next day and conjure up a plan B. Finding yards here where you can do your own work is uber difficult. Moreover, everything costs more in California, and then as if to add insult to injury they tack on an additional near 10% to keep all the bureaucrats fat and happy. Outrageous, simply outrageous. We don't have a sales tax in Oregon, so it always irks me to shell out that extra money here.

Of course this plan is contingent on the yard having room to put the old girl back on the hard. Tomorrow should prove to be an interesting day.

Laters.

Thomas

[San Juan Sailor]

Thomas,
I don't think you have to pay the sales tax. I used to live in Oregon and whenever I went to another state were there was a sales tax and I was purchasing something expensive I would ask for the exemption. This is usually a matter of filling out a form. I found that sometimes the sales person would put up some resistance or acted like they didn't know about it but you are entitled to it legally. At least that's the way it used be. Good luck
Dan

[zeehag]

governator keeps changing things. good luck and put up a good fight. state is as usual, bankrupt-- hope they dont try to squeeze ye.

[Ocean Girl]

Howdy all thought I'd see if we want to talk Soul Mate (this being the SSSSM group)

Here is a question that I find hard to look at but a good gander is good for the soul so here goes:

Why do you think you have not found your soul mate?

Do you think that since you are single there must be something "wrong" with ya?

I have pondered this many times, mainly when someone says to me the classic line "I can't believe some sailor man hasn't snatch you up" (I get it once a week!). It is a tough question because I have no ready answer except for the fact that I can get snatched up by "a" sailor man but I am waiting for "the" sailor man. But that answer feels so one dimensional and deep down there is a nagging voice that says there must be something wrong with me. BUT just when I start listening to those negative thoughts and nearly convince myself that I must be so flawed that my mate cannot find me I go out with my girlfriends. My girlfriends are a group of single women that are amazing, smart, beautiful, fun, and yet they too are single. When I am with them I shake my head and say to myself "why the heck are they single?". Seeing them in the same situation as me is a bit healing and seems to give me patience. They remind me that being single doesnt necessarily mean there is something wrong with me, just that sometimes finding a soul mate can take a little time.

Having said all that I must admit I am one odd egg!! but my Soul Mate will have to be one odd egg too.

BTW my crush is going strong, our first official date will be next week (it took me a while to corner him).

Hope this made a little sense

Cheers,
Erika

[Yachts66]

This should be good if the good folks here will participate.

As an aside, the problem with my injector pump is a blown seal which has clogged the return line. You were just dying to know that, right?

I believe every individual is unique in some way and because a person is single has absolutely no bearing on their potential worth as a mate. Some folks are single because they are at a place in their life where being single is "right" for them at that time. The wiser ones (in my view) know not to rush into a relationship with the idea that any relationship is better than no relationship at all. It's pretty easy to have a bad relationship, a good relationship takes some hard work on both parties parts. (Again my view)

If you're a little odd, that's great, a world filled with people who were all the same would be....well....boring, don't you think? Uniqueness can be a very good thing, and not, depending on the flavor. Let's face it, there are simply some very crazy folks in the world and their craziness can sometimes be a negative kind of thing. Then again, their are some really neat, very engaging crazy folks out there too! Knowing whether you've found a mate that is in the former group or the later just takes time. Unless of course, they are really off the wall, those are often easier to spot.....but not always. How's that for being decisive?

Good things take time and good relationships take time to grow as you learn about each other. The Hutterites (a religous sect common in parts of southern Canada and the northern plains of the US) believe men are not "mature" enough for marriage until they are well past 40. It is not uncommon for men to remain single into their 50's. They believe older men are less driven by their gonads and thus better able to assume the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood. Women, in their view mature much sooner and are ready for marriage in their 20's. They have a divorce rate of less than 1% so perhaps there is something to be said for that. Interesting people in any case.

Enough rambling from me. Maybe the monkey will jump in now or the lady under the bridge.

Regards,

Thomas

[flysci]

Originally Posted by Yachts66

The wiser ones (in my view) know not to rush into a relationship with the idea that any relationship is better than no relationship at all.

My thinking exactly. But sometimes hard to do when the "good" relationship seems to be taking a long time to find

It's pretty easy to have a bad relationship, a good relationship takes some hard work on both parties parts. (Again my view)

Well I like to think that a good relationship is not all that much hard work. Just takes attention to the other. Which should be easy if you actually like the other. I find there's a lot of men who don't really like women, except for you know what. And I think the same for women. They know they want to have a boyfriend, even though they don't really like the company of men. When you like each other it should be easy to work things out, as it is with any friend.

Good things take time and good relationships take time to grow as you learn about each other.

I have to agree with this. Friends and companions first, with lots of s@x thrown in, and love will grow with time. And if not, the time will not have been wasted on hard work, but on shared fun.

Anyway, that's my story and I'm sticking to it!

Margo

[zeehag]

cant add anything to what anyone has said so far--- erika--yer not alone--lol...thomas--that will make th e engine not run well. i hope is fixed and you are on yer way quickly and that is only problem you have with boat.


i have found a good relationship is too much work for any of the men i have ever known-- they have been so set into their own ways there is no room for anyone else. which tells me a lot about them as far as WANTING to have a relationship. they dont. so why , then, did they pretend to want a relationship?? i cant answer that one--i am not a male. it seems that along with outdoor plumbing, men suffer tongue waggle and make promises they dont have any desire to keep-why do they make these false promises?? only they know.

[flysci]

Zee,

I think men actually DO want a relationship, and they are much healthier if they have one. Statistics show unmarried (or single) men die much earlier than those who live with someone.

I do think the 'set in their ways' thing is all too frequent. Maybe I'm an optimist, but I don't think it's true of ALL men. Women can get set in their ways too. Especially women who were in a relationship with a man who required her to give in, and gave little himself in return, will afterwards be gun shy about getting tangled with that again. Especially after experiencing the freedom of "a room of her own".

If we're really looking, then dropping the past and being open to new compromises is vital. And that's a HARD thing to do.

I trust that I'm strong enough not to completely lose myself to please a man. But am willing to change some for a man who is pleased by me. If that makes any sense! Haha!

Margo

[zeehag]

"I trust that I'm strong enough not to completely lose myself to please a man. But am willing to change some for a man who is pleased by me. If that makes any sense! Haha!"
concur with above.
"If we're really looking, then dropping the past and being open to new compromises is vital. And that's a HARD thing to do".
dont i know it...


would be nice to meet a man who also gives as much as i do... but that is extremely difficult and still be hetero..LOL...
would also be awesome to meet a male who actually converses...
seems that despite there needs to be sharing in a relationship, men rarely share. verbally .

[SaltyMonkey]

I should probably recluse myself from this conversation as my own needs and my life is rather scattered right now.

- A lot has to do with how secure you are feeling about yourself and your life. If you are not in the position where you feel comfortable with yourself and with giving or being settled, there is a sense you will make it worse for someone else, and therefore you will not want a long term commitment to someone. Here, were talking relationships. And "for some", this is prereq for more intimate encounters - e.g. w/o one you can't have the other.

- Being single doesn't bother me and I don't think there is anything wrong.

- MRI and Cats have concluded that people in relationships change after a certain honeymoon period. Usually, one doesn't care after a while.

- I've already found all my "Soul Mates". I'm a bit worn out by the encounters and probably need to get a boat and just go sailing for a while and recharge after working at home in the dark for 2 years.