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Old 26-07-2010, 22:20   #526
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". I'm trying to figure out what aspects of the cruising lifestyle stir the greatest fear in women, and how do I address those fears? "Win the lottery" is not an acceptable answer.".....LIGHTNING!!!!!

"I'm sure that if you asked the general population of women, you'd get as many reasons as the number of women you ask."....AMEN!!!!!
OSIRISSAIL---am glad you qualified that with "NORMAL" -- because sailorettes are NOT normal.

after sailing thru t-storms at night at 10+kts in 71 kt winds in gulf mixmaster seas and no moon, methinks the last thing left to conquer is fear of heights and lightning. both have solid basis,not imaginary reasons.

oh,yes--whether the boat is mine or thine--dont sink my damn boat. LOL wanna go sail????? i am almost ready....

ty allen,is most kind offer!

salty monkey--barbie was not proportional nor was she anything but superficial--she was a doll, yes, but...i think you would do better with a sailorette!
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"most women" ?, "normal women" ? No such things, I'd say! We're each pretty unique, as are men.

One additional aspect that I think concerns many women about the cruising lifestyle is the lack of a close circle of friends, often referred to as a 'support system'. Just as with romantic relationships, long distance ones are never the same. So even with wi-fi, Skype, etc. the circle isn't "there" in the same way.

The intense hothouse of a 2 person all day everyday relationship, as found in most cruising couples, is not for everyone. Men included. Many couples don't do well without a lot of time apart. Retirement is often a crisis in even a very long term relationship for this reason.

So I'm not sure that there's any way to "reassure" someone for whom this is a problem. Better to try out living in a bubble together for awhile to see if you can satisfy each other.

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First step really is getting off your arse. Or buying a lottery ticket. Either way....

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Hello folks, I have been peeking on this thread off and on for a bit now. Getting some laughs and perhaps even a few life lessons. So i thought I should join in. It's like they say, "You can't win the lottery, if you don't even buy a ticket!"

ME: A sharp 27 year old male, Getting ready to embark on another adventure in life. This ones gonna be the biggest yet. I have a lot of boat to not share with someone. I am going to be leaving Canada to head for the warmer climates this fall, and I am looking to meet some people along the way. I am not sure if my "soul mate" is going to be sitting on the other side of this screen reading this, but i know she is out there!! I just have to get of me arse, find her and chase her down!!

To others I am definetly one who live's outside "The Box". However to me... I am living life the way I want to, and that seems pretty normal to me!

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The intense hothouse of a 2 person all day everyday relationship, as found in most cruising couples, is not for everyone. Men included. Many couples don't do well without a lot of time apart. Retirement is often a crisis in even a very long term relationship for this reason....
Catamaran

or...

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or

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Yeah, if she would get her *#J$@ hand outta my face!
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When discussing the prospect of trading in "normal" middle class life for a nomadic adventure with an uncertain outcome, the need for security seems to have a distinctly feminine voice. I'm trying to figure out what aspects of the cruising lifestyle stir the greatest fear in women, and how do I address those fears? "Win the lottery" is not an acceptable answer.

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What do I fear?
Keel bolts (especially over ten years old)
crew that doesn't keep a good watch
A careless captain
A fearless captain

What makes me feel safe?
Good sound hull (ie glassed in keel, w/attached rudder)
well maintained through hulls
new (ish) rigging
a good watch on deck so I can sleep down below
A humble captain
a cautious captain
a competent captain.

Sleeping while someone else is on watch is my biggest challenge. Finding a man that can keep as good of a watch as me, now that is the key.


BTW- barbie has a boat too, I got one for chirstmas when I was 8



But Barbie also likes a turn of speed





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I'm thinking I have something in comon with barbie......

We all like a turn of speed now and again....

I like keel boats, thick solid fiberglass, Dry hull, new hoses and TH's.

Working electrical systems... as in no intermitent issues like "lucas wiring.. in an MG"....

Oh, I can cook, clean and have been taking care of myself for 25 yrs.... Just looking for that other "half"... Where oh where is she....
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I am having a difficult time these days looking for my barbie boat, just like i am a perfect mate.

Steel vs Alum vs Fiberglass
Small 27ft vs Medium 36 - 38 ft
Full keel traditional vs Modified Fin vs Fin/spade/round vs Fin/spade/flat
Slow/comfortable vs racing at 16 kts wheeee!
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I stand firm. Barbie didn't have a sailboat.
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I've never seen a Barbie with a sailboat. I've seen some Barbie bow ornaments. The other day I say a six year-old girl in the back seat of an SUV, watching the dropdown video screen with her feet up on the back of the driver's seat wearing 3" high heels. I have to think that is child abuse.
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Values

Name your primary values. Not secondary, but prime values that you would expect from all of your relationships.

Respect
Honesty & integrity
Empathy

Because with those come trust

Humor
Communication

Because those make it easy to weather the bad & good times.

Just what do you really want and expect?
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Really? Then what's this?

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ok those values are pretty good.
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