I think we all have a mental picture of who we think we'd like to be with forever, and an emotional sense of what feels true and familiar. Still, there are many people - dare I say it? - men
in particular, who are not possessed of the required emotional honesty and curiosity to make themselves vulnerable enough to love and be loved deeply and completely.
That said, I find that the tide and tables are turning - many women in their middle years will not take the emotional risk that is necessary to have the intimacy they expect. They expect to invest less yet get more than they did when they were younger. How's that workin' for ya?
I find that my best relationships happen when the lines between the physical, the emotional, the spiritual, the practical, the financial, the parental, etc., are blurred to the extent of non-existence, or at least, unimportance.
Maybe your dream is out there at the Great Barrier Reef
, but it could be that your soulmate is just two docks over trying to figure out how to rebuild
This much I know: nothing happens without desire. Not love, not work, not play, not happiness. Ya gotta want it.