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Old 25-01-2019, 08:14   #76
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Re: Becoming Invisible

Invisibility can be personality related?

My dad (80) definitely dosent feel invisible. He had no hesitation starting conversations with anyone, anywhere. I doubt invisibly has even crossed his mind. Invisibility dosent cross his mind.

Mum on the other hand would be verging on invisible if dad wasn't around, this is not gender related but personality related, mum just isn't as extroverted or confident as dad is. He's also a guy that just never whinges or bitches about non important stuff.
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Dale....methinks you know quite a lot
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Both genders have a unique set of problems, you have a choice, you could focus on the set of benefits that also come with your gender.

I really don't think you ladies are doing it that tuff, I'm not seeing real life victims in the circles I knock around in, I do see first world problems, not real problems but hey, I'm apparently white and privileged therefore what do I know.
Hey Dale,

sorry, i realise that you are on the other side of the world where real life priorities are very different from those the west... but i'm not sure i get the gist of what you are saying

you do not think that we are doing it that tuff:

-trying hard to be visible by dressing up?
we tomboys are not eager to wear make-up, so, do know, it does take effort (i don't even own make-up). and the dress is when there is surely going to be dance music.

-being invisible while selecting bits and parts in hardware stores? actually, i get lots of attention in hardware stores. i go nuts over tools and parts and bits and stuff.

-or are you trying to tell us that, any girl looks good on a sailboat?
no, we know that this is not true...



and please, please let the white-male-privilege thing go, at least with Ann, Zee and Gunyama (sorry girl for spelling, girl: dyslexia strikes after two syllables), seaside girl (sorry for name change: i actually can't read), and me... or is it really a thing, even with us?


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Dale, who said I had a problem or have it tuff? I enjoy the shock value. And Like Zee, I'm an observer of people. I find that what people say and what they actually do to be a super fascinating dichotomy.
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You want to be invisible? Be a woman of a certain age and fat helps a lot, glasses too perhaps. Actually some do actively seek it.
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You want to be invisible? Be a woman of a certain age and fat helps a lot, glasses too perhaps. Actually some do actively seek it.
Nope.. you just end up with folks going "Jeez.!!! will you look at the state of that..!!!"
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Anyone who can reach my quadrant and turn bolts is never invisible to me. And no there is no implied meaning there.
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Anyone who can reach my quadrant and turn bolts is never invisible to me. And no there is no implied meaning there.
Ha, ha, ha! I so know what you mean though I can reach my own quadrant and bolts. The zerks too
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Ha, ha, ha! I so know what you mean though I can reach my own quadrant and bolts. The zerks too
Lol... .this is really when size matters!
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You know when you’re invisible when people are talking about you in the third person and you’re standing right there.
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i think 60 is still a bit too soon to be invisible,but i do see it happen as we get older,the grey hair and stooped over ;posture and slow movements..stay relevant even if only to yourself and hopefully family and friends..
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The most invisible people I’ve ever seen are the poor and homeless in rich urban areas. Most of us actively try not to see them .
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Notice this a lot on public transport and walking around the city.
Spent a couple summers taking the bus from the boat to downtown Detroit
for work (easier than parking the F250 downtown).

I developed what I call my "crazy eyes". You don't look directly at anyone but you want to look a bit scarier/weirder than anyone else so the scary/weird people don't strike up a scary/weird conversation.

Most cities, I don't feel the need to utilize my "crazy eyes" but also don't reach out to chat with random people on the bus.
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I like to be invisible. I'm rather enjoying it! But then again I do not feel the need to be the center of attention. For example there are times when I'm working on the boat, and have a long list of things do get done, and I'm always getting people stopping to ask questions..which is pretty cool, but sometimes when I face down in my lazarette it's not easy to carry on a conversation.
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