What motivates some Cruisers to “slice the baloney thin” and concoct definitions that exclude others?
answer....LOW SELF ESTEAM.........
Great write up Buddy ..I can hardly wait to log back in and read about your assassination...
Much of life's rebukes from our critics is directly linked to deep issues inside that critic..
I have found out I LOVE to sail in gale conditions...mind you I sail in protected waters so least some of you low self esteemed types out there want to assassinate me already and prove my point... let me prelude that with, I have ZERO blue water
experance and will not event try to tell you about what happens out there in comparing the two...so take a deep breath and a pour your self a glass or your favorite mind swilly and keep an open one.
I like big boats...I like the power of them ..I like the way they handel compared to the small boats I've owned..I like being able to stand up everywhere with minimal stooping as I have a bad back...I like challenges also and storms are challenges...I could not be a cruiser on a small boat because of it.
Im not a record
setter and I have never played any competitive sports per say and was pretty much a couple years behind in maturing as far a physical strengths compared to my peers...I have phobias as well I am to a certain degree afraid of heights..even though I have taught rock climbing...have topped trees and will readily go up my mast
Why am I bringing this all up...I believe Jealousy, Fear or love are the only forces that get us off our duffs to do anything ..rather thats go to work each day or sell it all and set out wander lusting.
For some that decition took years of planning ..sacrifice..and struggle to achieve...for others it was an off hand decition to try something new and they bought a boat and set out that week.
Here in lies the point of my theory...
We are going to run into a myriad of personalities that run the gamut between thoes two extremes...each will have a preconceived Idea of what it takes to "Become a Cruiser" by how each defines the qualities that they deem worthy of a cruiser.
Some will require classes
passed.. instruction taken..Like crewing
to get your "shell back" status..and on and on before you even start to measure up in there eyes.....why?..low self esteem...this is what they had to do in order to be comfortable in their own abilities.
On the other hand you have young bucks like we had recently buy a boat...get some bad advice...ignore some good advice ...set sail and ended up hitting the mommy button because of it...but he sure had a high level of self esteem..and isnt out there tearing any body else down with a nose of arrogance and disdain.
People who tear me down for liking 40+ knot
winds are afraid of 40+ knot
winds plain and simple..their self esteem is not great enough to admit it so they will conjure up past tragedies that brought death and carnage and site reasons of foolhardy endangerment to others as ammunition to cover up thoes fears.
Your crusty Cruiser is no different..you are a threat to his equilibrium because you represent what he could not do in your time frame ..in your manner...with your limited knowlage..the list is almost endless really and thats the point ..its their list and you dont measure up.
I have low self esteem in areas to..and they mostly all are in dealing with people...not situations..I do my best to not be jealous of..."people skilled"...people..but I never tear them down..as my own self esteem is great enough to admire them and want as Carl Marks said..To try to get membership
in their club not keeping to myown or people out of mine.