I only came across this thread tonight and have read all the posts. My dad developed Alzheimer's and dementia which was just devastating to the family
as the decease progressed. While dad was 91 when he left us last year he was still a very fit and active person but over the previous five years you could see the decease slowly impact on his life more and more.
I started to type a whole list of things that occurred but I do not wish in any way to discourage what you are doing.
One of the things that does not seem to have been mentioned or discussed here was the elephant in the room, your safety
and welfare. I do not wish to put a damper on things or dissuade you from your endeavours. I just wish to ensure you are aware of all the possibilities of having your husband on board.
Have you considered what would happen if your were incapacitated or unconscious. Does your husband have the capacity to understand what has occurred and what has to be done. You stated that your husband could not find his way from the head
to the bed
which was only a short distance. If you were asleep have you considered what he may do.
There are two people here that need to be looked after, not only your husband but yourself. If you are injured who is going to look after you and then look after your husband.
I certainly understand your desire to keep cruising. It is well documented that a brain that is challenged deteriorates at a slower rate. I know that you would wish to cruise
with your husband for as long as possible. To do this and keep you both safe have you considered other options such as taking a third person on board. This would assist in a number or ways in that you would not have to have keep watch of your husband 24 hours a day. If something occurred to your husband and he went overboard
you would have someone to assist to get him back on-board. Speaking of which if you fell overboard
would your husband be able to get you back on board or know what to do. Could he start the motor
if you were under sail and come back for you. An extra pair of hands in this situation does not need explaining.
Maybe this could be a way of getting help from the family
by planning your trips with the assistance of a family member
Please please understand I am not trying to upset you but make you aware of what do you do in an emergency
. I just want to make sure both of you are as safe as possible to enjoy your sailing for years to come.
I may get a few negative comments on this but if it was me I would like to know all the facts, good or bad.