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Old 28-04-2016, 18:27   #1
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"This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

So I'm downsizing. Cleaning closets, cupboard, and all. I have been giving away a lot of stuff! I'll come across something and say to myself "Oh, she'll love this!", "He could use one of these!". Have a party? Ask the guests if they see any house hold items they'd like? Please help yourselves on the way out. I always get a blank stare, until I explain my plans,


And in my rambling mind, as I rid myself of things, the thought strikes me. "This is how the terminally ill and the suicidal behave!" And I laughed and laughed!



Yes, it'll be be a death of sorts. Death of land life. Death of excess possessions.


And I let go so willingly, so freely. It's most wonderful!
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Old 28-04-2016, 19:02   #2
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Yes, and another thing I would be asking myself is "what kind of favors is she/he going to be wanting after?"
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Old 28-04-2016, 19:28   #3
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Wait and see. You will be surprised how much our well formed habits stick.

I am yet to meet one cruiser who changed their habits from Diogenes to Socrates.

BTW A noble exercise in any case. If only for the benefits of this sound laugh you have had!!!

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Old 28-04-2016, 19:37   #4
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

1994, sold the house AS IS including three motorcycles four cars, garden tractor and the paintings on the walls. Took our family photos, 1/4 of our clothes and left. Only regret ..... we didn't do it soon enough
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Old 28-04-2016, 19:38   #5
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

No Gadagirl, its how full-time cruisers who have sold off their homes and cast off the lines behave. We have the choice and made the choice to give up our belongings - the terminally ill do not. And if others don't understand, F*** them. We wouldn't be going if their opinions mattered.

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Old 28-04-2016, 20:11   #6
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Of course others don't understand: our choices are quite threatening because they say that their lives are wrong, but they don't want the freedom. Their safety lies in living the way they know. They "know" they're right.

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Old 28-04-2016, 20:27   #7
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Same thing applies to landlocked souls like myself, making plans for a waterbound life and downsizing to beat the band. Feels great.
Gotta make room for new things by letting go of useless attachments and things that don't hold enough meaning anymore. . . or are part of an old way of being that just has to go.

I'm looking forward to sailing into the doldrums and hanging out for as long as it (or me) lasts. There is something truly magnetically attractive in giving up living on land.
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Barnakiel, I'm not sure that I agree with your assessment for anyone except for the ultra wealthy and those who were already minimalists. On shore, my wife and I had a 3200 square foot home with central air, central heating, a fireplace, an 8 person hot tub, a ground floor laundry room, a circular driveway and a three car garage occupied by a Porsche Boxster, a BMW M3 and a 1957 Karmann Ghia lowlight. We now have a dated catamaran with about 600 square feet of living space, ventilation by hatches and fans and space heaters only when we are at anchor, or dockside. We have a 10 foot RIB with a 20 HP outboard and a 'wonderwash' with hang drying (or laundromats). In past my wife used hairdryers, straighteners and curling irons to her heart's content. Now.... In past I had about 8 suiits, a few sports jackets and a tuxedo. Now I have one sports jacket, 'just in case' (which never happens). In past we ate quality beef - filet mignon, T-bones, prime rib etc. about twice a week. Now almost never. In past we had unlimited internet with countless movie and specialty channels. Now we take what we can get when we can get it. In past we had special appliances - rice makers, espresso/cap machines, coffee makers, deep fryers, slow cookers etc. Now we cook by traditional methods. In past we had a good bottle of wine every night with dinner. Now we have box wine or equivalent, unless we are on a French Island, or somewhere like Sint Maarten or Antigua. The list goes on and on.

So yes, our habits have changed. But as boatpoker says, they have changed without regrets.

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Old 29-04-2016, 05:58   #9
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Even though we never "downsized", getting rid of stuff has been a constant activity with living aboard. Now that our daughter and son-in-law are living aboard their boat, gifting "stuff" has become a game.

Yesterday I left a wet-suit on their boat. Next, I have a rarely used pop-rivet tool as a gift. We may get cookware and other specialty tools. We have an understanding that these things will find their way to our friends ashore or a donation box.

Many marinas we visit have a designated location for "free" stuff.
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Good For You! For too long I collected 'STUFF' thinking it would make me happy, now I realize it is just another burden keeping me down. I'd love to sell our home 'As Is', but the wife is still holding onto the past, even things she admits she can't/won't ever use again.

I am looking forward to the day when she sees the light and we can sell this large house that only exists to store the crap we don't use. . .
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So I'm downsizing. Cleaning closets, cupboard, and all. I have been giving away a lot of stuff! I'll come across something and say to myself "Oh, she'll love this!", "He could use one of these!". Have a party? Ask the guests if they see any house hold items they'd like? Please help yourselves on the way out. I always get a blank stare, until I explain my plans,


And in my rambling mind, as I rid myself of things, the thought strikes me. "This is how the terminally ill and the suicidal behave!" And I laughed and laughed!



Yes, it'll be be a death of sorts. Death of land life. Death of excess possessions.


And I let go so willingly, so freely. It's most wonderful!
YES! it is liberating! less Stuff owning you!
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

not so much a suicide or death, but a rebirth, which also has the same symptoms and rituals
welcome to the smaller side of planet... have fun and see ye out here
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Old 29-04-2016, 08:55   #13
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

One of the best feelings I ever had was getting rid of all my stuff and moving my family onboard a Passport 42.
Now we have it all back again. Sometimes I feel like burning down my house. I hate clutter but my wife loves it. Guess who wins.
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

I remember selling/giving/trashing all of our "stuff" when we took off. The kids said it felt like we had died and they were dividing up the inheritance. Of course, that was without the funeral services. No regrets whatsoever, if you don't include the swallowing of the hook and becoming locked down again.
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Re: "This is how the terminally ill and suicidal behave!"

Yep. I am in the same boat as you. My house goes on the market next Tuesday and it's liberating getting rid of all the stuff Also listing my Pearson 33 for sale in hopes of upgrading to a slightly larger boat I am not in the least worried about being houseless and boatless for a few months while I nail down the plans to really "shake it up ". Somehow I suddenly became 62, so My first Social Security check will arrive next month which will help some Hope to see you all at a pristine Anchorage soon
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