Single Men Living Aboard and Cruising... an honest look.

[2hullvenus]

Last 3 posts agree 100% with my own life experience.

Compromise is where it seems to be at.

Travel is my only requirement, not boats per se.

[AndrewPerry]

Listen to yourselves boys. The original post was bad enough but you all then came in with the most childish boystuff I have ever had the misfortune to read. I have signed on to this forum as I am learning and thought I might get some interesting and worthwhile information from experts. I am sure you are all "old salts", christ I am sure in your heads you get off on all that and that is the problem. Every time I read these threads all I hear is subtle/unsubtle ways of telling each other what great sailors/lovers/people/GODS you all are. But this one took the biscuit. The original question? was perhaps the most nauseating of all. I am gorgeous but I think my boat is getting in the way of my GODLIKE MACHO (although I am perhaps the world's greatest sailor). What do you think? Answer: Each of us thinks that we know better/are better at loving/sailing/living than you.

This is a basic summary of the advice on this blog but today it got a little too blatant. I am cancelling my connection. SNIPE ON YOU SAILING GODS.

[brownoarsman]

Are you kidding? No one on this thread has even talked about sailing. We've talked about a boat in progress that isn't being used. Sailing never came up.
As far as the boystuff, these are real concerns that impact a bunch of people. The number of older men who have told me they'd wished they'd done what I did (take off in the twenties and sail around a bit before committing to marriage, careers) is very high.
Mid-courtship/past marriage the balance of these desires will play a crucial role in the happiness of both partners.

Anyways, the last few dating conversations I've had have gone like this: "you just took off and went sailing?! That's so cool, I wish I could do that" followed by, "so, you're done now though, right? Like, forever?"


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[monte]

Aha, great thread. Thanks 2hv. Wouldn't it be crazy if you met the woman of your dreams right here in this thread...single, adventurous, loves to travel and have fun and already owns a finished catamaran....

[Wendi]

Originally Posted by monte

Aha, great thread. Thanks 2hv. Wouldn't it be crazy if you met the woman of your dreams right here in this thread...single, adventurous, loves to travel and have fun and already owns a finished catamaran....

Ummm, eeeerrrr.... not really sure he is my type. But thanks for playin

[monte]

Haha cmon Wendi, wouldn't you love to be date #3 next week!

[MarinerJo]

Originally Posted by Wendi

Ummm, eeeerrrr.... not really sure he is my type. But thanks for playin

He has a box van, what's not to like?

[Wendi]

Originally Posted by monte

Haha cmon Wendi, wouldn't you love to be date #3 next week!

I might just need to get in line now. Going to put on my makeup and curl my hair... heading out the door!

[2hullvenus]

Originally Posted by monte

Haha cmon Wendi, wouldn't you love to be date #3 next week!

Yup, that match making isn't happening.

Just look at the way she blatantly flies a hull in her avatar!

Too crazy for me!

[2hullvenus]

Originally Posted by MarinerJo

He has a box van, what's not to like?

Correction:

He only wishes he had a box van.

Currently vanless.

[alctel]

I bought and moved onto a boat to reduce my dependence on another person and help keep me single. All the work and refit and upgrades and learning to sail fills a void in my life that otherwise I'd try to fill with a partner.

Heartbreak sucks but the worst a boat will do is drown you!

[tinkrman69]

Originally Posted by 2hullvenus

Yup, that match making isn't happening.

Just look at the way she blatantly flies a hull in her avatar!

Too crazy for me!

Just chicken or jealous? Or does a woman captan intimidate you?

[Exile]

Originally Posted by alctel

I bought and moved onto a boat to reduce my dependence on another person and help keep me single. All the work and refit and upgrades and learning to sail fills a void in my life that otherwise I'd try to fill with a partner.

Heartbreak sucks but the worst a boat will do is drown you!

Not THAT was a great post, and hits all too close to home.

[tinkrman69]

Originally Posted by alctel

I bought and moved onto a boat to reduce my dependence on another person and help keep me single. All the work and refit and upgrades and learning to sail fills a void in my life that otherwise I'd try to fill with a partner.

Heartbreak sucks but the worst a boat will do is drown you!

loss in love doesn't = Heartbreak but resentment of loss does. in which case there wasn't any love in the first place. Just possession.

[Exile]

Originally Posted by tinkrman69

Just chicken or jealous? Or does a woman captan intimidate you?

Good points! So what gives with all this talk about women who are looking for a guy to "take care" of them, i.e. financially? How about a partner who expects NOTHING, but appreciates EVERYTHING??