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Old 07-06-2016, 15:13   #421
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What a sailing woman needs is a man that can fix a boat and has enough money to keep it afloat. What a sailing man needs is a woman that can get by with what is on board and doesn't sweat the small stuff. If she can make really good things come of the galley and run a sander, that is a good thing.
Nice post lorrie! Too bad the OP hasn't found a woman that meets your description. Maybe someday. I'm pulling for him.

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I hung around with him for a few months in South Beach. He's alive and well. We left together heading up the East Coast for awhile. He decided to put the boat on the hard, bought a camper and is land cruising for now. I'm not sharing pics of his catamaran, but it is quite an awesome sight. As he said, the inside is a work in progress, so a long way to go getting it to live aboard/cruising status for most women. It's a construction zone inside.

The OP is having fun for now, and I think it's still up in the air if he ever really completes this project. I hope he does, because he's put so much into this boat already. It would be a shame not to totally finish it out.

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"Fun" is a "funny" thing... it's a pursuit of the shallow who haven't emotionally matured. That is not to say that adults should enjoy things in life... but the constant pursuit of "fun" is really for kids and adolescents, not adults.
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Your issue with women is entirely separate from your issue with boats.
However, you seem to be messing up both issues equally well.

By creating barriers to you own success, you guarantee your failure. How about thinking of women as real people with their own dreams, careers, and goals. And how about owning a sailboat that actually sails if you want to go sailing.

You asked.
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Old 07-06-2016, 16:17   #424
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"Fun" is a "funny" thing... it's a pursuit of the shallow who haven't emotionally matured. That is not to say that adults should enjoy things in life... but the constant pursuit of "fun" is really for kids and adolescents, not adults.
That's me. I'm 66 and still an adolescent. So's my wife.
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"Fun" is a "funny" thing... it's a pursuit of the shallow who haven't emotionally matured. That is not to say that adults should enjoy things in life... but the constant pursuit of "fun" is really for kids and adolescents, not adults.
What am I living for then? Why am I living aboard, and cruising? Exploring new places? My wife and I have been cruising full time for 4 years, searching for fun, excitement, and enjoyment with each other. No real need to find anything else in our lives. We've had our share of responsibilities, sorrows, and commitments in our lives. Time to have fun....I'm probably older than you, and don't understand where you are coming from with the "constant pursuit of "fun" is really for kids and adolescents, not adults". Maybe you can clear that up for me?

I need to point out that the OP was not the one to post that he was having fun. He does have a business to run, and I'm sure plenty of commitments. But he does seem to be in search of "fun" from what I can see in his texts. Why would he NOT want to have fun?

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It does appear with age men are becoming a it wiser. Hopefully before they loose all tangible assets.

I bought a house with a mate because I felt that was the way to make a real partnership. Not to say that this doesn't work out, just didn't for me. I see the happiest couples out there do not need all the material things. What a sailing woman needs is a man that can fix a boat and has enough money to keep it afloat. What a sailing man needs is a woman that can get by with what is on board and doesn't sweat the small stuff. If she can make really good things come of the galley and run a sander, that is a good thing.
It is good to hear, there are dome real guys out there and yes sailing is Sexy.



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I think most of us in our lives do what we should do instead of what we want to do, in fact most do what they should their entire lives. Trying to unwind the life style of "should" to live the life we want can be difficult, can take time and be expensive. I've purchased two houses with ladies because "I should" and I regret both purchases. I'm relatively young (47) and only in recent years are starting to understand there is no should, its just strong societal conditioning from birth.

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Re: Single Men Living Aboard and Cruising... an honest look.

if you have to pursue fun, you are doing it wrong. hell my career was fun, icu/er/pacu/cardiogy rn,,, hell had a BALL.... my hobbies were and are fun-- ha ha ha if you only knew... life is FUN, not a pile of **** tried to be tied with a broken string. gads....it all comes from within your own self. no where else.
toss the programming and LIVE!!!
dang no one sed you have to be like everyone else. be yourself.

what should you be living for??
your lives.
damn that is an easy one.
live for you.
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LIVE! LAUGH! LOVE!
Now that's what I call fun..
Sandero...you seem constrained by your definitions....
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LIVE! LAUGH! LOVE!
Now that's what I call fun..
Sandero...you seem constrained by your definitions....
Indeed. When you're following your bliss, life is enjoyable. But follow or not, you're dead at the end.
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Do you really think a woman would be attracted to a box truck!
Thats where i was going....i believe i could convince a woman my "yacht" is being upgraded before i could get a decent one to crawl in my creepy perv van.

Anyway, if you gotta ask.....
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What am I living for then? Why am I living aboard, and cruising? Exploring new places? My wife and I have been cruising full time for 4 years, searching for fun, excitement, and enjoyment with each other. No real need to find anything else in our lives. We've had our share of responsibilities, sorrows, and commitments in our lives. Time to have fun....I'm probably older than you, and don't understand where you are coming from with the "constant pursuit of "fun" is really for kids and adolescents, not adults". Maybe you can clear that up for me?

I need to point out that the OP was not the one to post that he was having fun. He does have a business to run, and I'm sure plenty of commitments. But he does seem to be in search of "fun" from what I can see in his texts. Why would he NOT want to have fun?

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You're probably NOT older than me. Perhaps it's the word -fun- that sounds childish and maybe adolescent. Of course we want to enjoy life... find new things which we use the word... excite us and stimulate us. My conception of fun is what I see drinking and going for speed "sports" doing, for example. These sorts of thrills are fine. But more mature people have passed that stage and seek more nuanced sorts of "enjoyment". Chasing skirts may be "fun" but it's for the youngsters. When we see it in what supposed to be mature men it looks pretty tacky... or pathetic. The question is at what age does one transition from "fun" to more meaningful pursuits as a main cause for living?
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Perhaps it's the word -fun- that sounds childish and maybe adolescent.


....Chasing skirts may be "fun" but it's for the youngsters. When we see it in what supposed to be mature men it looks pretty tacky... or pathetic.


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I have a land cruiser also. Nothing wrong with that. I always need to park by the ocean.


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