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Old 21-09-2015, 11:43   #31
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Quite lucky you are..but, you've had her for 15 years- time to give someone else the luck. I have one to trade that has very little interest in living aboard.

Try taking her on a crewed charter. Don't have to mention at first that eventually the captain and crew will be two of you.

Just make sure the stops along the way are impressive.

And no, I'm not trading. Took me too long to find this keeper!!


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Old 21-09-2015, 14:25   #32
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neither of us is big on religion and kinda figure its none of the governments business.

So why not leave well enough alone?
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Old 21-09-2015, 14:48   #33
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You can do what I did, We got married on 1 Jan.
I figured I couldn't forget that day, and besides new years resolution and all. God knows you don't want to forget the Anniversary
My Brother being a CPA tried to talk me into 31 Dec as I could count her for taxes from the years previous that way.


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Old 21-09-2015, 15:35   #34
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neither of us is big on religion and kinda figure its none of the governments business.

So why not leave well enough alone?

It gets down to finance and estate planning. We figured it would be a little easier if we were legal. By the way it is still illegal to cohabitate in FL. This life of crime was getting to us. 😛


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Old 22-09-2015, 00:37   #35
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Nope. Nope. Nope. If you research it, you will
find that there are other, better ways to make
the finances and estate planning stuff work
much better. The default marriage laws don't
work well at all. They are the cause of
turmoil and conflict more often than not.

But knock yourself out... Just remember, you said:
...its none of the governments business.
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Old 22-09-2015, 03:55   #36
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January 11th, 1969 she answered the door bell! As another "lucky guy", like Rich, I was able to talk her into moving on a boat right out of college. We bought the first boat in 1971 and cruised to Florida in '72.
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Old 22-09-2015, 05:46   #37
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There have been a few times like when one of us was Hospitalized etc., that being legally married was better, seems a Spouse has more rights than a Girlfriend?
Now I assume in the US that isn't as true as it once was, but I'm also gonna go out on a limb and think that in many countries a Spouse has more legal rights than a Girlfriend does.
Of course that can be problematic too

I'm a little concerned about how to protect Her rights to the boat etc., assuming I die abroad or something. How does one go about doing that?
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I'm a little concerned about how to protect Her rights to the boat etc., assuming I die abroad or something. How does one go about doing that?
I think both names on the title & documentation "owners" would suffice. The names are usually best listed as "and / or".
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There have been a few times like when one of us was Hospitalized etc., that being legally married was better, seems a Spouse has more rights than a Girlfriend?
Now I assume in the US that isn't as true as it once was, but I'm also gonna go out on a limb and think that in many countries a Spouse has more legal rights than a Girlfriend does.
Of course that can be problematic too

I'm a little concerned about how to protect Her rights to the boat etc., assuming I die abroad or something. How does one go about doing that?
Valid concern. Can also be an issue with things like health insurance, various benefits.

Even if you are married things can be tricky if the wife doesn't take the husband's name, which my wife did (or didn't?). Wife and daughter also had different last names which was a problem a couple of times.
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a64pilot said: There have been a few times like when one of us was Hospitalized etc., that being legally married was better,...

Nope, yet again. Get a "power of attorney for
health care" and you can designate who has
what rights. Much clearer than marriage.

Names on title are also much clearer.

Lots of misconceptions out there re: marriage.
I find, though, that people don't research the
issue and just 'get married' by default. "It's
just what people are supposed to do."
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Having had both Parents pass and my Brother, I can tell you that living wills, medical power of attorneys etc., don't mean much.
What does is the Dr's and or hospitals belief of they might be sued, that trumps all.
Anything one Lawyer can do, another can un-do.

Best to avoid a legal hassle though, medically they just wait you out, either you get better or die before the legal issue is settled.
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Having had both Parents pass and my Brother, I can tell you that living wills, medical power of attorneys etc., don't mean much.
What does is the Dr's and or hospitals belief of they might be sued, that trumps all.
Anything one Lawyer can do, another can un-do.

Best to avoid a legal hassle though, medically they just wait you out, either you get better or die before the legal issue is settled.

Well, there is that.
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Rich, from one lucky guy to another, may you both have many happy years together. As to anniversaries, celebrate every day! Thankfully there is joy to be found whenever you are ready to see it.


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