Liveaboard Dating

[Jassen]

Greetings, folks. I've been lurking on these forums for a number of months, doing as much reading and research online as I can. There is an amazing amount of knowledge contained within these forums, for which I am very grateful for everybody sharing.

I have spent quite a bit of time on the water because of my 6 years in the US Navy, and miss being at sea. So, I decided that my next adventure in life would be to join liveaboard cruising world. I recently relocated to the Pacific Northwest, and have started looking at boats for sale, and I take my first sailing class this Sunday.

My only question so far about the liveaboard lifestyle that I haven't found an answer to elsewhere is how the single sailors handle the dating scene. I'm 34 and am not quite the shy type. However, I have trepidations about the potential reactions when I say, "Well, you can come over, but I live in a tiny, cramped fiberglass box tied to a pier."

Anybody have any thoughts on this subject?

Thank you much!
-Jassen

[Rakuflames]

Originally Posted by Jassen

Greetings, folks. I've been lurking on these forums for a number of months, doing as much reading and research online as I can. There is an amazing amount of knowledge contained within these forums, for which I am very grateful for everybody sharing.

I have spent quite a bit of time on the water because of my 6 years in the US Navy, and miss being at sea. So, I decided that my next adventure in life would be to join liveaboard cruising world. I recently relocated to the Pacific Northwest, and have started looking at boats for sale, and I take my first sailing class this Sunday.

My only question so far about the liveaboard lifestyle that I haven't found an answer to elsewhere is how the single sailors handle the dating scene. I'm 34 and am not quite the shy type. However, I have trepidations about the potential reactions when I say, "Well, you can come over, but I live in a tiny, cramped fiberglass box tied to a pier."

Anybody have any thoughts on this subject?

Thank you much!
-Jassen

Jassen, if you love boats enough to live on one, you have to look for women who share that passion. You won't find many who want to live on a boat -- I personally think I would have found it difficult while I was working -- but a woman who loves boating will understand your doing it. Don't expect someone looking for a husband and family to get it. They will want to know early on if you're willing to go back to land.

A lot of women in the age range you would be dating will be hoping to find that special someone to marry and have a family with.

[virginia boy]

Jassen, you don't have a thing to worry about. Boats are babe magnets.

You'll do at least as well at dating as a liveaboard as you did as a landlubber.

[Jassen]

Thanks for the replies. These are good things to hear. Good times will be had aboard the Super Funtime Sea Bus.

[Inquisitive]

A guy with his own liveaboard boat. I would have dated you in a heartbeat when I was single, and probably would have asked... Where are we going this weekend?

[Jassen]

Originally Posted by Inquisitive

A guy with his own liveaboard boat. I would have dated you in a heartbeat when I was single, and probably would have asked... Where are we going this weekend?

Awesome! I hope I find more of that attitude!

[Sailor g]

Me too. Of course all of us are boater babes! Cool name!! That will draw them. Find the one that loves it. Of course the Coasties will want to check the fun bus on its way out & in!! LOL

[minaret]

Oh, for the days of my youth when I too lived aboard and was single! I lived aboard in Berkeley, CA, and those UCB hippie girls can't get enough of sailing. Sailboat's are the ultimate chick magnet, all you need now is a puppy to break the ice and you are the mack dad! Don't worry, I've lived aboard in the PNW for almost twenty years. You will have no trouble at all...

[daddle]

"A woman will not lay down in a boat she cannot stand up in."

So someone joked...If it is true then consider there are 12,000,000 single eligible friendly beautiful Filipnas.

But it is not true. So you will have no problem. I've never had any negative reaction to staying on the boats. In fact the boat is a good a place as any to start the evening.

[delmarrey]

Originally Posted by Jassen

I recently relocated to the Pacific Northwest, and have started looking at boats for sale, and I take my first sailing class this Sunday.

Anybody have any thoughts on this subject?

Thank you much!
-Jassen

So, you've already started dating. Your looking for a a place to spend your money. A warm place to sleep. Something to consume your time and energy even when your busy. A demand of your presence and attention. And to deal with all the little problems you didn't know existed.
Then you move in together.

[Freedom45]

Jassen,

I have been a liveaboard for 5 years and have gone through the dating scene.
I used on-line sites and put right in the profile that I live on a boat. I met plenty of great gals that shared the same interest as me, and have been with the same one for two years now.
I don't care what other's perceptions are, if they don't like how I live move on.
I had one woman tell me I was one step away from homeless....let's see, I paid 150k cash for my boat, she was renting a room...perceptions

Cheers,
Chuck

[s/v Beth]

Let's see, some people are millionaires and prefer to live aboard an old boat. Yep that one step from homeless...

[Tellie]

You want to have a boat and a girlfriend?
One's gonna be more demanding than the other.

[JanetGroene]

By moving aboard first you avoid problems that arise when one partner wants to change lifestyles to go cruising and the other does not. A woman who buys into your liveaboard situation knows what she is getting into If she starts hinting that you should change, run for your life.

[zeehag]

the only difference i found in the dating life area was on docks in marina slips there are more weirdos in residence--inclusive of perverts and stalkers.
have fun and live safe.