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Old 26-12-2012, 09:59   #226
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True but it is almost impossible to sail on two sailboats concurrently
I once suggested to my wife we become old fashioned Mormons. I think she thought I was kidding.
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Old 26-12-2012, 10:02   #227
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Next summer I will probably lend my sailboat to my father and uncle.
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Old 26-12-2012, 10:08   #228
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Next summer I will probably lend my sailboat to my father and uncle.
And they will probably use her it together
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Old 26-12-2012, 10:10   #229
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I once suggested to my wife we become old fashioned Mormons. I think she thought I was kidding.
My running joke on that topic is "sometimes I think I should get my wife a wife so she can see what it's like..."

Of course, I married far above my station so any attempted implementation would be foolhardy at best...

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Old 26-12-2012, 17:31   #230
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This is a big thought.

My casual observation is that everyone is eventually "hunting" for the sex partner. If people spent more time making "friends" with the opposite sex I think the pool of available partners would grow and who knows, the life partner may appear.

I don't have tons of female friends, probably because there are not tons of female sailors compared to males. However, I am not looking so the female friends I do have are because of common interest, not the desire to bed anyone.
Unfortunately, this is an unimplementable ideal because it conflicts with our main Western partner ideal - that a life partner is also a monogomous sex partner. In fact the two are inseparable.

Until you reach such an age or other condition of life that you and your partner no longer find sex particularly appealing or important, the real truth is that marriage = sex.

Consider these thoughts
- What do you call a girlfriend who you don't have sex with? ("A wife" is one possible answer, but the intended answer is "a friend")
- What would you think of your life partner having a different sexual partner?
- Do you believe that "if you don't have sex with your husband, somebody else will"?

For most of us, the two are linked in such a way that it is in fact impossible to separate the concepts of "life partner" and "sexual partner" unless you have no interest in one of them, or are willing to abandon the cultural norms of the modern world.
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Old 26-12-2012, 20:04   #231
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Human relationships are over rated.
Depends who the human is and who is rating them and why.

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Dont make the most common of mistakes by confusing love with sex
If sex comes before love...it is likely that love will never be found.

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This is a big thought.

My casual observation is that everyone is eventually "hunting" for the sex partner. If people spent more time making "friends" with the opposite sex I think the pool of available partners would grow and who knows, the life partner may appear.
Not sure if everyone is hunting for sex or just sex but I agree whole-heartedly that if you spend the time making friends, then a life partner may follow.
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Old 26-12-2012, 20:27   #232
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Just like sailing and cruising ... while some sit around thinking and debating others are out doing it. No matter what you are looking for - go find it - it is out there.

It can't be too hard to find a sailing mate. Looking around the YC it appears that everyone is either paired up or having a blast trying. Guy, gal, boat ... a love triangle ... a formula for excitement.
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Old 26-12-2012, 23:41   #233
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I spent a fortune, advertising and 'hunting', a waste of money and the casual sex thing had no meaning and became only physical relief and disenchanting even then. I reckoned if I wasn't happy with my own company then how could I expect someone else to be. So I stopped the 'hunting', simply went out with friends to shows, meals the opera etc just for the good company of friends, eventually I sailed off alone and, as so often happens, by a totally unrelated incident with a boaty friend met my partner. I'm quite content with the 'Western values', maybe I just got really lucky with my partner and I'm not going to spoil it.
Have faith in yourself and the very best of Good Luck to anyone seeking a partner, I hope the New Year will give you what you seek in life.
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Old 27-12-2012, 00:04   #234
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Been sailing for almost 60 years. Was married for 30. Sailing is forever. Marriage is temporary. So many women, so little time.
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Old 27-12-2012, 00:20   #235
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My experience...

It is very easy to confuse sex and love. I've done it.
The result of sex is children.. This makes the aforementioned really complicated.
At least for me I am certain I love my children. I don't love their mother. But it took me a long time to separate the too.
This is not good for your mental health.
Children are expensive and mean a larger boat is needed.

As for the future... Nobody knows. So all we can do is put our best foot forward with equal parts caution and hope.
If you want a life partner.. They are out there.. Of this i am sure.

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My type of girl!
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I have been married twice and always to my best friend. Both relationships had their up and downs, but i really got something good from each one. It is all in how you look at it. If all you can see is the negative, you need to change your glass.

Would I marry again? Of course. I am a romantic and love sharing my life. Some people prefer to be alone. I know I prefer sharing, sharing things, sharing emotions sharing laughter. Even the bad things shared, can be better.

I believe in love and hope. Every person is a possible friend. Every person has their flaws, so look beyond that, and they all have their charm. Forgiving goes a long way in getting rid of bitterness. It helps you find peace in your heart. If you are holding on to that bitterness, why? Is it to protect yourself from further hurt?

It is difficult to find someone who brings that magical spark to you. I hope we can all find it in this new year.
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Old 27-12-2012, 10:20   #238
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Find a woman that Loves your boat and she'll learn to like you.
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Old 27-12-2012, 11:16   #239
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Find a woman that Loves your boat and she'll learn to like you.
IMHO that's a truly bad suggestion.
It can be extrapolated to:
Find a woman that loves your house / car / bank account ........

But despite strongly disagreeing with you I extend a warm welcome to CF
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Old 27-12-2012, 11:30   #240
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Everyone needs to give and recieve; Love, respect, adventure, security. Look after the boat well and you're well on the way to being a suitable spouse. A little savings account also strongly advised for the security thingy.
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