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Yowieboy · 13-02-2019, 00:13

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Originally Posted by daletournier

Oh, and passes you chocolate through the closed companion way

You need a woman who is also a magician...

**JPA Cate** · 13-02-2019, 02:03

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Originally Posted by Yowieboy

You need a woman who is also a magician...

I suppose maybe you both need to be magicians-- but only for each other. The trust has to be really strong and each of you has to know the other one has your best interest at heart. But knowing your partner's competency also helps.

I'm the poster who started the Becoming Invisible thread, and I could just have easily started Becoming Visible. About 20 yrs. or so ago, we were tying up in a tiny harbor in NSW, Crowdy head. An old guy offered to take our two dock lines. I asked him to affix to one starboard pile, and one port pile, and he didn't do it, put both lines on one. Politely, Invisible Ann thanked him.

The weather got up and we were helping a cat get off the fuel dock and come out into the middle, where the pier was. Same old guy on the dock. Skipper directed us to the front of the two hulls. Jim and I each had our own. We both flipped bowlines onto the lines to fit over the piles. The next day, the old guy said good morning to me. See, competence counts with fisherfolk, too. It could be I showed myself to be competent crew even though a shiela, or that he assumed incompetence of most grandmotherly women, not entirely, really sexist, more related to boating, somehow. After all, skill, wherever you find it, is a blessing, regardless of gender, and middle aged women not often suspected of competency.

Ann

Maka · 13-02-2019, 02:11

Ask not what your partner can do for you
Ask instead what you can do for your partner.

Exile · 13-02-2019, 11:01

Same as on land?

I've always liked what a very capable & independent wife of a good friend advised me once:

"Expect nothing and appreciate everything."

Maybe more aspirational than always realistic, but a healthy attitude to strive for it seems.