And therin lies the reason for the antipathy created in your conversations with others. You have created in your mind an image of being a professional cruiser and one in which you can solve the worlds problems by your 25 years as a cruiser and are not afraid to inform everyone of your status.
Nobody can take away the years you spent at a tiller. It is what you chose to do, and I for one applaud it.
You present yourself in argumentation with a false humility. Even your name of Wrong, and then you proceed to right the whole boating
world with your experience in a dogmatic way, non remitting and with continued prejudice against posters who disagree with you.
Im a doctor. It scares me sometimes the responsibilty of it. So much so that I and colleagues in our own time spend hours looking into new treatments and studying drugs and discard combinations of drugs based on the manufacturers own warnings. We look at certain illnesses and compare what used to be the treatment with the results with what is done today. When I see that old treatments yielded a 36% success rate, and new treatments yield an 85% success rate, I get the privilege
of making the observed decision that the 25 year 'experienced' man could have changed his methodology 10 years ago but chose not to keep up with the times.
Secondly, I dont expect strangers to take my medical
advice without a second or third opinion. Sometimes I push patients to talk with other consultants or I will, with their permission arrange a telephone or video call, in their presence to a specialist, and see what they have to offer. Just because I have a certain experience, it is not all encompassing or the total knowledge, it is just MY experience and one way of doing things.
There is a huge difference in presenting "facts" and presenting opinion. Even 'facts' if not researched are worse than an opinion because you are staking your actions and reputation on someone elses mal observation.
The final thing on the doctor theme. If I am sure of something, with facts and test results and disease knowledge and prognosis, I will present it to you as I have it. The choice of what to do is NOT MY DECISION. I have not given you an opinion, just the facts. If you choose to ignore the FACTS and my considered choice of treatment, I am not offended. I am not resentful. Time will bear out the reality of the diagnosis, and you can bet that I will also recommend to the patient other avenues to explore. I dont sit back and say, I have 30 years of experience, do what I say.
You consider yourself a cruiser. You consider yourself a man of the world. You offer opinions like we all do. Your not a politician or a government
official and yet you have the answer to the Californian issue in the bay.
So much so that you doggedly hung in there raising the matter time and time again and in the process fell out with someone who is also a current
cruiser who offers in the main sound researched advice on mechanical matters, because she is a qualified engineer
Its an opinion you offer, not a fact.
To round off the whole matter, I have had a pilots licence for 42 years. I have a total of 3732 hours flying time. I dont consider it makes me a "Pilot" because it is not my vocation or employment
. Its what I do for fun. My 16 hours of flight for last year were mainly catching up on safety
practices and a recertification for an aircraft.
If I offer an opinion that is not researched or based on factual reality or even if it makes not a scrap of difference to the situation because Im not able to change it...... I will in due course have to hold my hand up and shout "Im an ARSE!!"
So I tend to make huge allowances for others because the reality is we are all ARSES, and sadly some other ARSE will be correct at some point and I will be wrong, and I have to swallow the reality that I was the bigger arse.
Other people will make the judgement as to whether Im a doctor of worth, My claiming to be a 30 year veteran means squat. It just means I did it.
Other people will make the judgement whether or not Im a good pilot or not, not that I have had a licence for 42 years from being a kid.
Other people will judge whether I am a good cruiser or not, actually the other day I got pulled up for a bad habit I have and got roundly ridiculed when it backfired on me........I had to put my hand up and say Im an ARSE! because my years of sailing counted for squat.
You dont get a get out of jail card here on CF for a claim you make. You get it for approval from your peers, and I dont include myself in that crowd because your 25 years of living and sailing and 2 circs, as you constantly tell us, are more than I can even dream of. But it counts for nothing if you dont have respect and need to demand it or point it out constantly.
I would much rather 'learn' from your experience. Just state it as it happened and stop beating up on us lesser mortals, some of whom are not as less as you think. (Except for me because I do lack experience)
On another note, I truly am sorry that your health
is not as good as it could be. I mean that sincerely and with empathy. It will not stop me being an ARSE over your ARSENESS at times, but it will allow me to offer a genuine human offer of whatever help you need in terms of information or if I can suggest something for your consideration, please just PM me in confidence. Disagreements mean nothing where health
is a concern. Id like to see you better so we can disagree some more without me feeling guilty over it.
And I feel an ARSE for writing this but hey.. I hold my hand up and admit it.