Originally Posted by ontherocks83
Sadly I think the amount of friends on FB for some has to do more with fulfilling a lack self worth then it does winning.
My concern and maybe its me being cynical
but I feel like you always have to be suspicious of someones motivation for posting
things on FB. Is it to brag, cry for attention, guilt you into something, fill a void in there life of not getting the attention they want....or some other non healthy reason. (yes i know theres plenty of good reasons but i'm a grouchy pessimist
At least on here I can be honest of my intentions. I want free advice, an occasional argument to keep my mind sharp, a potential safety
net should I be in trouble in a distant land, and an occasional laugh.
Now tallying the fulfillment of my wants lately it looks like I'm due for a good argument on here. Any Takers?
I would say the answer to that (highlighted above) is a definite maybe.......
Not looking for an argument though.
It does sound like you didn't have the greatest experience on FB, and that's a shame. For me, I have been on FB for years, yet just hit the 200 friends mark and I am happy to say that I know almost every one of my friends personally. The only exceptions are cruisers I have met through this and other forums
and whose travels I enjoy following. Most of them at this point talk with me as if I had known them all my life and I am really looking forward to running into them "out there." If you send me a friend request and you aren't someone I know, someone I would actually want to talk to if you called me on the phone
, I delete the request. And if you're someone who is needy, whiney, obnoxious, oppositional, or constantly spamming with game
requests and crap, I delete you without a single
thought to how it affects my friends numbers. I've deleted family
My FB friends list consists of our family who is literally spread from coast to coast and north to south, people I went to school
with, people we have worked with (especially ex-cop friends with whom you form unusually close bonds but who are now retired and moved to many places), members of our camping club, people we have sailed with, and people we met while in the Navy
who are also also spread all over the world. These are folks who I generally like, many I truly love, and whose lives I very much enjoy keeping up with. I hope that they feel the same about me. It seems that they do. I very rarely ever play FB games or do the contest or survey
type things, Life is way too short to waste time on that crap. Do I really care what my "hippie name" would be? I mostly avoid politics and religion. But I do love seeing my friends grand kids
, weddings, vacation
pictures, their houses at Christmas
, knowing when a mutual friend is in the hospital, or passes away. I love it when the occassional picture pops up of me and some other mop topped kid dressed in our Easter finest when we were 10 or 11 years old, old yearbook photos from yearbooks I no longer have, or photos of my hometown from back in the day and now. My friends and family are freaking hilarious so I hardly ever sign on without getting a laugh out of it. We talk on FB much the same way we would over the phone
or around the campfire. But it becomes group conversations so it's like having a bunch of your friends over.
And I love it when someone from my past who I considered long lost
all of a sudden finds me. That just happened to me a few weeks ago, a close friend I hadn't seen since I left Kentucky at age 18. We spent several days messaging back and forth catching up on what had happened in our lives over the past 44 years. I really enjoyed that. That has happened to me so many times over the years. Only on FB.
I also love following some information sites that interest me: fitness sites, news sites, cruising sites like Active Captain
and AGLC, Sailboat Swap Shop, Women Who Sail, camping groups, people who are (gasp....here we go again) restoring boats
like Barry Buchanan who did that amazing Rhodes 41. There is just as much to learn through FB as there is on sites like this one. You just have to find the pages that have the good information feeds on subjects that interest you and join them.
I have taken a "social media" break a few times. But it never lasts more than a month or so. Not that I am on it all the time. When I am busy I never give it a thought. During the summer I most often go all weekend without ever signing on. I don't give a crap about gazing at my cell phone
all the time either. I use it more so during the day because it lays on my desk here at work. In the evening it usually never leaves my purse. So I don't consider myself addicted to social media or to my electronics
. But I would miss all these great people that I genuinely care about if I didn't see them from time to time on FB.