OK. This touches a nerve for me as well.
As I have simplified my life, the "organized world" does not know what to do with me, and it starts to feel that my simplification can be a complication. I can't be the only one who has bumped up against the feeling.
Not maintaining a residence in my "original" country (as opposed to home country. I mean, I have no home there, right?) can confuse matters. But with the non-US citizen wife (Indonesian) there are places that make it tough. A part of that is Post 911 Debris that isn't going away anytime soon. We were married before 911, and I can tell you that there is a difference.
So this community isn't all made up of couples from the same country. I've thrown this out here before, but not much came back.
I'm FROM one corner of the world.
I live on my boat, which is currently in dry storage
in another corner of the world.
I am currently in my wifes original corner of the world.
When I wrap up here, I'd certainly love to take my wife back to the boat in Mexico
, where I can step off a plane and get a "visa upon arrival" has already told me that they would just deport her with the next flight out if she doesn't have a visa.
You DO have to jump thru some hoops if you have a situation like mine or the OPs. Before 911, she was with me, a US citizen and that was good enough. Now, no cigar.
Had her with me in Austraila. We started our trip back to the boat in Mexico. In the airport
I was told that she had to have a Mexican visa. When I told the ticket agent that Mexico was "visa upon arrival", the young girl said that I would need to buy a 100% refundable "visa ticket"..... $6,400. I ran over and threw down a couple of credit cards and got her on the plane.
But wait !!!, there's more!!
Just changing planes in the US.... not gonna happen without a visa. They seperated us for 5 hours before finally giving her a "transit visa". But not until US immigrations had fined the Ozzie airline $2,000 for letting my wife on the plane.
Then we made our way over to the Mexican ailine counter to re-book for the next day. We checked into a nice hotel
because we wanted to be nice to ourselves. So a wad of cash later we got back to the Mexican airline check in counter and I found out how the "visa ticket" works. My $6,400 ticket would be used to fly her out. I would loose my wife and $6,400 on the spot if she didn't have a visa.
We had to split again for a while. She went back to Indonesia
, I accepted an assignment in the Middle East. Another year later before we could get together again.
OK, so I didn't do the homework. Point is, there is homework. In my American arrogance I just figured it was like the old days. Duh.
So depending upon your situation, there can be red tape
. And it can be discouraging.