Originally Posted by woodguy
Back in the late 1970s my first wife died of cancer at age 32. Within a year I had bought a Southern Cross 31 hull and deck with the idea I would finish it off and sail the world. The effort was part of the grieving process and gave me something to focus on outside of my job which I didn't much like at the time. I found a small boatyard in an industrial area with indoor space to work for a reasonable price. As a bonus, a much older fellow and his wife were already there building their own boat. He was an engineer and a genius. Over time they became my best friends. He also became my teacher. From him, I learned more about boat building and engineering and life than I ever would have from any school. Over the next decade and a half we never finished our boats but we had some great times at 'the yard' punctuated by some terrific parties! Alas, the boats got sold, eventually. None of us ever sailed off into the sunset. Do I have regrets? Well, I miss sailing and may buy a small boat someday to use on one of the small nearby lakes in southern Wisconsin. Would I do it again? YES, in a heartbeat. It got me through a very difficult emotional time and I made the best friends ever! And, I learned a lot of good stuff which has served me well since. These are rewards I never anticipated but were more than worth every penny I spent on the boat.
Cheers, well put and straight to the heart of it.
Sometimes I think I like working on my boats as well as sailing them, it gives you purpose and keeps you in the learning
curve, it also gives you time with good people who are willing to lend a hand and share the knowledge they posses.
Through all of lifes trials and tribulations it provides a steady pursuit of passion. After the breakup of my first marriage I used the time to refurb auction
boats to pay for my daughters college education as well as a pursuit that kept me from doing those embarrassing things some middle age guys do.
It's part therapy, part learning
On a side note, I knew I had met the right one when my now wife, who was my girlfriend then, was right there with me scraping the hull of the boat I had at the time to get the bottom back down to the gelcoat
Cheers, glad you found such enrichment in your pursuit.