To all, The ram is the correct size and there is no air in the system.
It won't be ram or air. The problem is the helm
pump. It needs to be of a size that will turn your rudder
from lock to lock in the appropriate amount of turns. Usually 3 turns lock to lock.
My boat I use a undersized helm pump and have geared it up. The wheel does not fit directly on the pump. The pump it'self takes 7 turns for lock to lock. But I have geared it so I get 3 turns lock to lock.
Yes you are right that you don't get a real "feel" for the effort placed on the rudder
. But why would you want to fight a rudder all day. I'm with Del. I can leave the wheel where I place it. If there is load on the rudder, I do certainly feel the extra effort. But I don't have to fight the effort. IMO, it's not like a race
car where you want to feel the road under the tires.