Your decision seems to be wether to go with an open cockpit
sail boat, or to buy a "motor sailer".
My next boat, which I'll name soon WILL NOT, sail to windward like a sharp stick. It WILL HAVE large glass areas which in the Southern Ocean ...might..... be a worry. But a 'windows' trade-off is a useful thing for people who may be of fair complexion, are concerned about skin exposure, who just ....hate....being in an open cockpit
in bucketting rain and strong winds at 2AM on a 4 hour shift.
Not being an expert I don't know the exact stat's but you guys and your littlie are going to be either on the hook or on a berth a damned site more than you are going to be under sail and a motor sailer with a sitting/table arrangement where you can see out...together...is pretty attractive in my opinion.
To be able to sail to windward like an Americas Cup 12 metre boat is terrific I think. But to be able to crank a decent sized engine
to go in the desired direction when the yuk hits the fan is even more terrific.
There are lots here on CF, I suspect, who on many occasions would have loved to have been on a motor sailer rather than on a rocket ship S&S designed (eg...nothing more than eg!) thoroughbred. That said, there are those who will disagree (with many things).
Personally, I h.......no, can't say the 'h' word, ....I thoroughly dislike the sun other than at temps of, say, 20deg C or less. Cloudy, windy (even rainy/snowy) day person am I.
Lots of fuel
, strong motor, fantastic load carrying capacity, well sheltered panoramic views, and so many other attributes describe well a Nauticat 33 (1,160 built ?!!?), but then there are many others from the same builder
with double the volume. And so many other motor sailers of other brands....Fisher 34/37.
The list of proven motor sailers is endless.
And for what else it's worth, its pretty hard to rip the keel
off a vessel where it is an integral part of the hull
T'were you who raised the motor sailer question otherwise I'd have never aired my views .
You Guys are not envisaging day sails
, on the contrary.
So have a look at sailboatdata.com.
And remember that there are many well found older fibreglass boats so you don't necessarily have buy a youngish Oceanis
350 or one of the thousands of similar boats.
Finally, I LOVE the layout of the O' 350 but for longer trips/live aboard etc a motor sailer is more me. And it sounds more like you. And no, I have nothing for sale
Happy hunting, expect to make plenty of mistakes
but a mistake shared with a loved one can sometimes be pretty bloody wonderful when reflected upon.