This post is of no use to the OP at all. But may be to someone else.
I know that I have "over the hill itus". I want to go places and see things. I mean remote
places. I've done too much single
handed sailing for a relative newbie, but that is what life has handed me.
In any case I've made mistakes
and gotten into trouble. On at least one occasion hardly any other boat would have survived unscathed ( if not sunk). But ours did.
I'm not talking big waves and howling winds, I'm talking surviving some Dumb S#%^t behind the wheel
I think what actually sinks boats are the crew. The boat should be strong, heavy, safe enough to survive what the crew does to it. In my case I'm asking a LOT!
I do think any boat should be able to take a hard grounding in stride. That's life.