The actual sailing is not so much to handle, but the docking
and undocking can be. It does take two people to dock
these boats some also add a bow thruster. I've seen and been on them and they are as noted a heavy boat even if attractive. At very slow speeds they can continue right through the dock
with barely a scratch to the paint
. The destructive force uncontrolled is dangerous to life and property.
I think you really need to better understand your wifes aversion to sailing. Unless she likes to be on the water
and travel I really think you could end up owning a boat that never goes any place. If she really does not like the water
there is no boat big enough for you. A much smaller boat you can day sail would at the very least be a lot of fun and easy to handle alone if that were the case. The CSY 44 is a great boat to take off for extended trips and carry a lot of stuff.
There are a million ways to enjoy sailing. You need the one that works for what you really want to do in a way you can do it.