I fall into the above category. My wife does not like sailing and has no interest in learning
. As far as she's concerned sailing is my hobby and I'm welcome to it, as long as she doesn't have to pull on any ropes or navigate, however she will occasionally steer which I encourage, and proved to be quite useful recently when I had battery
issues and couldn't run my auto pilot.
My wife does however like boat rides, she likes tanning on the foredeck, swimming, visiting nice places and mingling at the yacht club. I'm not saying she doesn't help out- she does, she likes to do the cooking
taking care of the boy, but as far as she's concerned the actual sailing is boy stuff.
This is a great compromise that works 90% of the time. When it doesn't work- is when it's windy or rough, she doesn't do windy or rough unless it's a transit. As mentioned above, I like sailing. I like my over built bomb proof sailing machine, which needs significant wind
and seas to make the experience very much fun.
The result? I either find one of my brothers who both have careers and one of whom has his own cruising boat he is trying to find time to sail, one of my friends who are generally employed, or more often then not I single
I only singlehand in over 20 knots, because below that my wife is happy to join me. When it's over 20, she is more then happy to snack and mingle at the club house. It's my love (for actual sailing) that causes me to single
Before I met my wife, I was full time living aboard
on my (then smaller) boat. I liked living alone on my boat she was very much a sailing boat first and a comfortable boat last. During this time frame, I was on an extended leave of absence from the Coast Guard and had all the time in the world to sail around the great lakes
at my leisure. Now, as mentioned, my friends work, so the only way to accomplish this was single handed. Otherwise- I would have wasted my valuable leave of absence sitting at the dock
Now- for me maneuvering the boat in crowded marinas
is a non issue. I was formerly a professional captain
, who amongst other vessels was a ferry
captain- and would make upwards of 1000 docks a year, with 100's of passengers on board in busy harbours, so maneuvering a 35' sailboat is a total non issue for me. I'm also a very good navigator. What I'm not- is a great sailor, so sail handling, especially in high winds provides a great deal of challenge for me, that challenge is exciting. As far as the bravado? I guess I enjoy watching the old guys at the club grinning and shaking there heads when I come in after single handing for the day in high winds and seas- sure I get a kick out of that.
Long rant- but that's why I singlehand. Much of the time it's the only way to participate in the sport that is sailing vs the activity of cruising.
Coincidentally, my wife and I both work in the airline industry, but I fail to see the relevance of the link between flying and the very corporate commercial
airline industry. That may just because I used to be a mariner, which skills I find much more relevant to sailing.
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