If you spend 20 years doing the same thing over and over without success it might be time to change the approach.
The definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over whilst each time expecting a different result" :-)
I pick up a mooring by coming along side and hooking the float and then quickly passing a line through that has a loop at one end. In pass the other end of the line through the eye and let it all go again, EXCEPT for the end of the line. This I then tie off to a deck
cleat and I can shut the engine
down. I then have time to walk the line forward and get it over my spare bow roller and onto the capstan. This now means I can use the anchor winch
to pull in the line and mooring rope
and hook it over the fwd bollard. With the bow being darn near 7ft above the water
, the boat displacment being 26T and the wind
often blowwing strongly, this is the only way I or we can safely do the job.