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Originally Posted by cats39
20 years is a longtime to know someone, but the divorce rate is already high so there are many in the same category. If your dream is so important to you, be strong enough to accept the cost.
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That really was a powerful first post![emoji4] [emoji106]
I agree with you. .....
Which is why I think it is vitally important that when you and your chosen partner decide to get on the same bus together, you both must be totally sure, it is going in the same desired direction.
For me, it is what I call..... 'The Importance of being Selfish'.
Know your chosen direction, communicate what desires are an unconditional part of who you are....
...and let the potential partner decide early on if they want to be part of that.
Unfortunately, many people allow their
core dreams to be compromised at an early age..... Due to lust and other practicalities [emoji6] .
Some even fool themselves into believing they will be happy at just being the "follower" in the relationship.
They drift into a loving and comfortably relationship as a form of salve and try and invent "new dreams" as a couple. (While accumulating wealth and/or debt)
Some are successful at fooling themselves for a long time and that dream is shut away, only to resurface as hybrid obsessions from both sides.
That usually becomes the genesis of a fatal conflict in their relationship.
I admire the OP for trying to
broker and manage a bucket list solution to enjoying his passion.
Just goes to prove..... We are not all the same! (Thank god) [emoji4]