There's no moderation in life. We run into the whole range from ethical to thieves, from brilliant to dolts and we make our way and get what we need.
Discussions about issues related to cruising should not be injected with politics, or religion etc. Those topics can and should be separate and anyone can choose to participate or not.
When a discussion gets out of control, adults simply move on. And that's how it should be.
Insulting comments and personal ad hominem (sp?) comments / attacks should be discouraged and removed if they are really offensive. I don't care for foul language, for example, but I do use it occasionally. I don't object to it occasionally either and will tolerate it as opposed to "censorship"
I think many sites profess to be concerned about libel suits which I think is hogwash. Suppose someone posts what appears to be libelous. The offended party will likely contact and request that the comment be removed as a remedy. Taking it down as opposed to fighting in court seems to be a simply remedy for that problem. I seriously doubt that big lawsuits will result from remarks on a website. If anyone knows of libel lawsuits related to web site forums
discussions I would like to read about it.
Frankly my preference, if one feels they must moderate, is to do it transparently and simply post an comment AFTER the "offending" one explaining why it was not up to standard and hopefully the discussion will be recentered after that.
I don't get the idea of not allowing some links to other sites which is also a common mod activity. Really who cares?
I've left some sites where there were a few "aggressive" posters and it simply was not pleasing to be subjected to constant swill. I moved on. The site owners, obviously like the swill so good for them, they can have the site.
The more moderation, the drier and more boring a site it. You make your bed
and then you have to lie down in it.