I voted for Other.
About five years ago I was refocused on what I wanted to do, which was sail around the world. I let life and a first marrage side track me from doing this a long time ago, but when I found myself all alone (no wife, kids
or girl friend), I decided to get back to the roots of the dream.
I wasn't interested in hooking up with another woman for long term, unless she wanted to do what I wanted to do, as much as I wanted to do it, and had something to bring to the table besides desire.
Wouldn't you know it, I met a woman. She was getting ready to retire from GM after 35 years of work in Michigan, wanted to share the dream, and had something to bring to the table.
We got married, she moved out to San Deigo where I lived, and we started working on the dream. We took lots of courses through our local Power Squadron, found our boat, and were off and running. The boat was in San Francisco
, so after we bought it I preceeded to refit
the boat to our liking before bringing her down to San Diego
. The big day came to bring her down with two other people, but the wife couldn't come as she was holding down the home front from a late breaking development.
We got the boat to San Diego
with no problems, and then the wife an I began using the boat together. That was when I found out that she had a visual perception problem (things looked closer than they were), and was afraid of the ocean! I spent many, many outings trying to calm her fears, staying in the bay where conditions were the calmest, and trying to get her to pilot the boat. I hired a Captain
for personalized training, and that helped some, but her progress has been painfully slow at times. I talked to a friend that went through that samething with his wife, and after 10 years she finally started feeling comfortable in the ocean. !0 years...Yikes!...I could be dead in 10 years if it takes my wife that long.
Now I have come to the sad conclusion that I will not be exploring the south pacific
, and probably not even making a passage
, but will most likely be confined to coastal cruising...unless I run away from home!
My suggestion to any person that wants to make the dream happen with a significant other, is that a through interviewing be conducted before committing...and that includes sea trials!