There are only two inlets which can accommodate your draft
: Ocean City and Chincoteague/Assateague.
Ocean City is the better of the two, with a jetty on the north side. There are submerged jetties on the south side of the inlet.
Chincoteague/Assateague inlet is much more challenging.
Neither should be attempted in anything except good weather
I assume you have good charts
Nevertheless, IMHO your best bet is to choose your weather
when leaving Cape May, and plan to sail directly to Norfolk. Or, if the weather doesn't look favorable, go up the Delaware Bay and thru the C&D Canal. It doesn't take that long and is much more sheltered, with dozens of excellent anchorages
before you reach Norfolk.