I would get a job near the coast and rent a house. After that look for you boat. A Catalina
42 or Hunter
, something similar is good not only because the price
but because there are a lot of them and parts
and fellow owners are plentiful for support in fixing the boat up.
I would buy the boat and bring it to a cheap marina near your new place and with a rental ashore you can afford a real fixer upper as far as inconvenience. Having to hustle down a ladder to use the head
while you gut out your waste system is not the best option for living aboard
at the start and with children
it could really get hairy.
Once you get the basics sorted and a few short trips under your belt move aboard and cast off.
Pay cash for everything, do not finance. Financing
tends to let you over extend and why make payments on something that you will be putting money
into anyway, its not a car, you need to buy kit and parts
from the get go, sail away condition is only sail away if you don't mind neglecting your rig until the point you get into trouble.