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Old 10-07-2015, 18:06   #16
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Re: cruising Anchorage etiquette?

We do not call out to vessels where we don't see anyone in the cockpit, but upon entering an anchorage we do speak to those that are out on deck or in their cockpit. It's our nature to crusie about the field taking note of the depths and choices for a spot. I typically ask those on other boats how much rode they have out. This shares my concern for safety and allows me to make a judgement of proper distance. This often leads to other shared conversation. It's not unusual for us to come across others that we have been cruising with before or people with common destinations.

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Old 10-07-2015, 22:12   #17
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Re: cruising Anchorage etiquette?

Great question, if only there was an etiquette!
love visitors to drop in and never get tired of admiring comments but pretty often we're trying to accomplish a boat job that day and so would like to socialise later in the day.
Those who are living like they're on permanent holiday sometimes struggle with our attitude. I suspect these are often people who get all their boat jobs done for them when they're at their next marina stop. We prefer the diy as you go approach.
Funnily enough no matter how busy we are a friendly and open approach always goes down well and such people notice you're busy and suggest a later meet. Conversely when a negative whingey person stops by to tell us how we're doing it all wrong they're often hard to shake off. Since you don't want to suggest a later 'date' and being inconsiderate in the first place they sometimes don't take the hints, we tend to get pretty direct at this point and sometimes we've had to get pretty brutally rude (we are British so that's a low bar).
It comes down to being as simple as this. If you're positive we'd love to meet you but notice if we're busy and make a plan for later. If you want to come over to tell us lots of bad stuff then we're happy to find out in our own time.
During our first few boatie meetings I didn't realise that when invited onboard, people usually mean into the cockpit. It's a much later step to be invited inside. I didn't notice and was just going straight in! Horrified now but I genuinely just didn't know or think.

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Old 11-07-2015, 08:24   #18
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Re: cruising Anchorage etiquette?

There are many reasons people cruise. The majority, I believe, enjoy combining sailing with socialization. However, there is a sizeable minority that enjoys the solitude of spending quality time with your partner and pursuing reading, music, hobbies and, of course, boat chores. I cannot criticize those who pursue socialization since we have met many friends that resulted in quality, long term relationships. However, we tend to anchor away from the crowd and do not overtly pursue contact. On the other hand, I have helped many fellow cruisers fix their disabled boats, provided needed tools/parts and assisted many novices in trouble in the last 25 years. Cruising is different things to different people and I believe that respecting others privacy is paramount. If a boat is interested in socialization, it is usually very apparent by the activity aboard. Good luck and good sailing.

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