(dunno if this is the right place for this post...)
I sail three longish passages each year, and take crew found from sites like 7knots, findacrew, ybw and (next month) a guy from here too. We swap emails, get references
and usually its somewhere between fine and fab.
BUT i am extremely wary of taking along a couple, for lots of reasons.
I reckon it spoils the dynamic - a team within a team. Each of the rest of us is an individual and also a part of the team - but those two have their own special little team as well.
Couples also have that awkward power - "we think..." "Stu and i have been talking and ..." so that your crew isn't bunch of individuals any more.
Of course, if you're a couple then taking along another couple might be fine. There again, it might not.
Couples work at their relationship, which of course is fine. But when new crew come on the boat, I want them to work at the relationship with me and other crew, and not have the always-somewhat-higher-priority of each other.
Once, with a couple crew i had, the guy fell on the foredeck whilst at sea. I had to physically restrain his girlfriend from rushing up to help without clipping on etc first. Couples look out for each other above almost anything else.
Couples usually have a leader/spokesperson and it might be either the guy or the girl. So you tend to have the ideas person and the tagalong. Sometimes the leader/follower thing is so strong that you ask one of a question - the other answers for them. Or you tell one them to do something and they check it with their other half. I even had one couple who planned to swap watches and thought that "their" watches were a joint task that they could divvy around as they fancied - he'd do a bit more watches and she'd do his galley
chores. I don't think so - would she swap watches with anyone else? Nope, thought not. I haven't had it but i can see the possibility of getting from here to "i'd prefer it if you don't talk to him/her like that..."
I note also that where there some storm/rescue boat, it seems disproportionately common for the crew to skipper/owner owner PLUS - a not-to experienced couple. Perfect storm, the catamaran
in tasmania in the press recently and lots more. What seems to happen is that one of the couple gets frightened/hurt - so their partner dedicates themselves to looking after their partner, and/or makes strong representations to skipper
about what ought to happen now. This wouldn't happen in any other crew of three in total - one down would mean the other two have to sail the boat in turns.
Yep, and of course, they're having sex and I'm not. I wondered if that's the main thing, but it isn't, no really...