I have read alot of boat stuff in the last several months. A very frequent piece of sage advice I come across it to not make someone go cruising who does not want to go. I did not give it much thought until recently.
We have a seven year plan... I always say 'we' but it is really 'I'. My three children
, ages two, seven and eight are on board with this (well the youngest has got no idea and really the two older kids
don't either - they think it sounds exciting and just want to be with Mom). My husband says he is onboard.
My husband says he is onboard. Period.
That's it. He doesn't do anything else. He doesn't pore over sail plans and layouts (except when I leave them in the bathroom so he'll pay attention). He doesn't care about the differences between a monohull
. Or the advantages of a steel hull
over a fibreglass hull
. Or that boats could be made of wood or aluminum
or ferrocement too. He nods when I talk about what I think is the type of boat that we should get or that I can't decide between galley-up or down. If I asked him what my favourite catamaran
is so far I would not bet money
that he could answer correctly....
I don't generally give his indifference much thought. He's pretty laid back and generally goes with the flow and he is just not a long term planner. When I plan our semi annual holidays, I do all the planning and research
. Once it is booked, I give him a stack of info on our destination
and accomodations and potential excursions and then I marvel at how he must feel as we disembark the plane or enter the lobby or walk on the beach and he is seeing it for the very first time having no idea what he is getting himself into (because he hasn't looked at a thing I gave him). Countless times I have heard him praise a beach or view or architecture like he was transported by laser beam and is surprised he is there. It's not frustrating or aggravating, just perplexing. I'm surprised he can put 100% trust in someone elses planning. It is akin to pulling a travel itinerary from a hat and saying I'll go with that one without looking at it.
Sometimes I find it stressful though. Although I have never heard him complain I do have some anxiety that all travel choices fall on me. If I make poor decisions we all have to live through them. I know it is not that bad... what difference does it really make that I should have chosen the hotel
down the street.
the right catamaran
, deciding to live in a much smaller space for several years, homeshcooling our kids
on a boat, travelling to foreign countries and crossing oceans is HUGE. I'd like a little input.
When I pointed out these observations to my husband he told me he is onboard with this whole plan but ... maybe we should try living aboard
a sailboat first and see if we like it.
Always so practical. But talk about knocking the wind
out of my sails
(We ('I') have finally booked our first liveaboard
course... 30 January, 7 nights, BVI.)