I understand your excitement. You have the fever. Please do not misunderstand me. I am not trying to poop the aft deck
of your dreams. Reality is this....the big Lagoon is like a luxury resort. A Belagio Hotel
on Las Vegas Blvd, so to speak. As you walk through her and see all of the creature comforts...your nipples become hard. I get it. We all get it. It would not be human not to experience the thrill of the varnished Brazilian cherry wood...
The boat has a very complex electrical
systems with multiple engines, genset, refridgerators inside and outside, watermakers, electronics
heaters, pumps, air conditioning
, heaters, toilets, washer and dryer, on and on. Then you have rigging
, sailing shezzle, and that is the short list. That boat...and nothing about a Lagoon, a St Francis, or an Atlantic Cat...but a large complex boat is a very expensive proposition to maintain.
You are doing the right things in getting experience with certifications. Before you sell off everything and hope your wife will love it as you do....would it not be "due diligence" to take her on charter
for a couple of weeks to see how she "takes to it?"
The last thing you would want is mutiny. One of my local friends lost
his first mate to any further sailing because he pushed her too hard and got her violently seasick. She refuses to even Bay sail now. Take things slowly with her as advice from and older salt
The second part is this...you have that need of wanderlust...it is deep in my bones also. I don't know your finances or your level of being able to "fix" things. Do you understand....really understand how much work a boat of this size entails? It is no joke how much work a boat of this complexity and beauty takes to keep in shape. A wonderful blog is "Zero to Cruising." But you can get an idea how much work from reading it is entailed. Although this couple are charter crew for a skippered charter boat of a large Catamaran
, isn't your family essentially a charter group 24/7? This couple have an extraordinary story. Their stories are real and I "get it" how much work they put into their work everyday to keep the boat going.
They already had paid "their dues" on smaller platforms before moving up to more complex platforms. I do not think you have. I do not mean that to sting you or discourage you in any way. Knowledge comes by layers and experience.
So, the bottom line is contemplate your actions about what is fair to your wife....give her a chance to sample what you are drunk on. Then you have to really sit down and try and get your head
around the truth....am I really ready to take on a boat of this complexity? Read blogs of people who do it for a living as charter captains like ZTC (see above), many live aboard blogs to be found, and numerous books
and seminars to be found. But for Heaven's sake....get her on a Carib. bareboat
or charter for a week or two....that should be your very first thing to solve. Remember the old saying..."if you back a dog into a corner, don't be surprised if you get bit? Women, generally speaking, especially raising children
have different feelings than wanderlust. Many families sail and do it successfully. I know you want to be part of that group. Best of luck to you and give her the chance to see if she "can come on board" with your ideas. She will understand that you "respected" her as your companion.