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Old 23-05-2014, 20:51   #301
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Exactly. If my partner didn't desire to travel, then I'd simply ask em:

"Do you prefer 'Scenery' or 'Action' Postcards?
Well don't you have your priorities a little twisted....sorry but there is NOTHING I wouldnt give up for my husband including our dream to sail around the world. And happily he feels the same way. 25 years of loving the same man and I can't picture even having to be apart from him for even a week.We're not attached at the hip we're sailing through life hand and hand as best friends.
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Old 23-05-2014, 20:56   #302
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While DIY is the best way for many, it's decidedly not for some of us. We have neither the skills nor the interest plus in the same amount of time it would take us we could earn enough other ways to pay for it.

Personally, we use a very reputable yard and have been extremely pleased with them in all ways.

Not arguing with those of you who go another way, just stating that there is more than one way to do it.
One of the nicest parts of this thread had been learning about BandB's relationship. Very nice explanations, comments and presentations. We should all be so lucky. We are, too.

As far as this comment, though, I'm glad you're in range of those professionals to fix your boat. I do figure, however, that you are aware that many other cruisers are not in a position to have that kind of assistance close at hand.

While I am not a "far off" cruiser, and only do coastal cruising, I find being as self-sufficient as possible is a safety issue for me, my family and our guests.

In multiple trips to the California Delta, or Drakes Bay up the coast, for example, I could just as well be "out there" on the far side of the moon, and have had to repair issues that would cost me mega bucks if I had to resort to using local professionals, let alone finding any.

I didn't have the skills when I bought this boat 16 years ago, but I certainly had the interest to learn how to fix things myself, 'cuz most of us can't afford having some reputed "professionals" come to our boats, f* things up and have to fix them ourselves anyway.
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Old 23-05-2014, 21:14   #303
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As far as this comment, though, I'm glad you're in range of those professionals to fix your boat. I do figure, however, that you are aware that many other cruisers are not in a position to have that kind of assistance close at hand.
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Fully understand. Same point as mine actually that what is right for one may not be for another. I admire those who can do it themselves. But that's also not a reason to summarily state that all boatyards or bad or boatyards are not a good way for some people to go. That's one thing we have to all keep reminding ourselves, that there are many different ways to go about this.
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"..... I find being as self-sufficient as possible is a safety issue for me, my family and our guests.
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I didn't have the skills when I bought this boat 16 years ago, but I certainly had the interest to learn how to fix things myself, 'cuz most of us can't afford having some reputed "professionals" come to our boats, f* things up and have to fix them ourselves anyway.
I don't think there is any safety discrepancy as to who actually physically does the work as long as the skipper is aware of the problem/the solution and to learn from the “professional” how to recognize and troubleshoot a re-occurrence.

As to the heavy maintenance labor of painting/scraping/sanding…. If you can afford to have someone else do that…. Not a safety issue but a plus.

Good boat management involves managing your own professional time and maximizing your enjoyment while never losing touch with how the basic systems are functioning
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Hmmm... Wife or boat?.. .


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Well I don't have one of those any longer (wife that is). So you can see my reservations with giving up a dream for a woman. At this stage in my life and being without a wife, I can afford to be quite selective with whom I keep company. A woman that doesn't enjoy the boating lifestyle is what I call a "deal breaker" but I certainly understand those not in such a liberated position. I'm just happy not to be among them.


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My wife told me she would divorce me if I bought a boat. I bought it anyway and made her sail with me to Mexico. There were growing pains, but the other day she said she couldn't imagine living in a house again. She's gung-ho for a Pacific crossing and has been looking at sub-$5000 fixers for "when we sell this boat and start over". I created a monster.
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but the other day she said she couldn't imagine living in a house again. She's gung-ho for a Pacific crossing and has been looking at sub-$5000 fixers for "when we sell this boat and start over". I created a monster.
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Well I don't have one of those any longer (wife that is). So you can see my reservations with giving up a dream for a woman. At this stage in my life and being without a wife, I can afford to be quite selective with whom I keep company. A woman that doesn't enjoy the boating lifestyle is what I call a "deal breaker" but I certainly understand those not in such a liberated position. I'm just happy not to be among them.


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There are plenty of single guys out there sailing/cruising solo and for the most part you realize real quick why they are going it alone, like just bringing an empty plate and fork to a cruiser potluck.... Come on admit it....
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There are plenty of single guys out there sailing/cruising solo and for the most part you realize real quick why they are going it alone, like just bringing an empty plate and fork to a cruiser potluck.... Come on admit it....

Oh didn't say I was "alone" actually I would prefer just a touch more "alone"...but that's me. All the same I know of what you speak and point taken!



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My wife told me she would divorce me if I bought a boat. I bought it anyway and made her sail with me to Mexico. There were growing pains, but the other day she said she couldn't imagine living in a house again. She's gung-ho for a Pacific crossing and has been looking at sub-$5000 fixers for "when we sell this boat and start over". I created a monster.
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No "Hmmmm" required in the decision making process...
Goes both ways....

I live with my best friend who I love to death, but we will not be a couple or commit because my future is not compatible with his future. I'm not willing to give up my dreams; he's not willing to live on a boat.

Hmmm....maybe if more people were honest about what it is they really wanted in life.....????
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How does he know he doesn't want to live on a boat? Is he unwilling to even try it? If so, I guess you have to decide *something*.

Godforsaken sounds like a looong way from the seas of BC.

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