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Old 30-05-2012, 10:37   #31
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I like it! We are so ready for the change. Both of us are coming to grips with emotions we were not expecting. But every so often something sneaks up on us. I guess I was having one of those days today. Thank you everyone for picking me up.
We get through life's challenges and usually arrive at somewhere better. People actually seek out that unsettled feeling you have. It erases boredom. Creates growth. Sometimes death, although rarely.
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Old 30-05-2012, 10:56   #32
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Re: Is This Normal? Getting Rid of Our Life

It's amazing how much of that stuff you love you can get in a 10 x 10 storage unit. I would do that for a while.... what happens if you decide you dont even like cruising after a year and a half? We got antique family furniture, about 30 boxes, tools etc etc in one. Very happy I did it.
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Old 30-05-2012, 14:33   #33
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Re: Is This Normal? Getting Rid of Our Life

For any out there still young enough to have a choice, there's a great advantage in never acquiring enough stuff to fill a 10' x 10' storage unit. There is a great freedom in non-ownership!
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Re: Is This Normal? Getting Rid of Our Life

Its normal, Its cathartic, and you will LOVE the freedom, whatever you do, don't put your stuff in storage, it becomes a mill stone. Rather let someone else get the use. Its all only "stuff", the real important things await you. You will never feel so together and in love when you are surrounded by nothing except nature and the few things you need to be there. Go and happy be!
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Old 30-05-2012, 17:20   #35
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Re: Is This Normal? Getting Rid of Our Life

Currently going through the same thing.

It is very much like a funeral for those parts of you, like those land based people are dying, to be reborn in another life altogether.

It has also been amazing to us how little the trappings of a land based life are actually worth when they are divested. Much of what we work so hard for turn out to be relatively worthless (especially in today's market) trinkets.

Ditto on the 10x10, ours is about half full of things we couldn't yet part with.

The short transition during which the business and such are given up is much like a cocoon, and we are hoping to emerge with freedom that only such divestiture can bring. The word trappings is the appropriate term, as we are slaves to the material things we think we own. They keep us pedaling the hamster wheel 16 hours a day, only to acquire more things we are slaves to.

Money and things can always be acquired in some quantity. Time is limited, and no one knows his or her time remaining.

We are done trading precious time for things, and choose instead to live.

The transition has been liberating and eye opening beyond belief. Kinda like attending your own funeral, it crystallizes the things in our lives that have been truly important, and exposes the trappings for what they were.
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Old 30-05-2012, 17:40   #36
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I wonder if the Husband is going through the same thing or is he being inundated with the wife's mournful cry. Sorry to say, but might as well stay home if you miss the kids and your thing's that much.
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Its normal, Its cathartic, and you will LOVE the freedom, whatever you do, don't put your stuff in storage, it becomes a mill stone. Rather let someone else get the use. Its all only "stuff", the real important things await you. You will never feel so together and in love when you are surrounded by nothing except nature and the few things you need to be there. Go and happy be!
well that is just silly. unless your really down to your last dime, put the stuff in storage. over time, prices skyrocket. you will save a bundle by storing stuff till you later on need them. use to be able to buy a new couch for $200, now at least $1200. stainless pans from $5 now around $60, and so on. so if its good quality, keep it. some stuff they just dont make anymore or make in inferior quality.
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Re: Is This Normal? Getting Rid of Our Life

Yeah, it's really not a huge decision, unless you're near destitute. You can always get rid of it later. Dont know your story, but MANY people who spend years preparing to go cruising "long term" make a year or two and say "that's enough". Or a month or two...... It's OK, whatever works for you!
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I wonder if the Husband is going through the same thing or is he being inundated with the wife's mournful cry. Sorry to say, but might as well stay home if you miss the kids and your thing's that much.
Geez, that is kinda harsh. The Wife (me) is the driving force behind this dream and neither one of us is worried about missing the kids. The kids have lives of their own, they do not need us hanging around.

You missed the point, we are wholeheartedly embracing the new life ahead of us. I just didn't expect to be emotional about the end of this phase of our lives because I was so excited about the next phase -- it caught me completely be surprise.

Custom30 summed it up well, it is much like a part of you is dying so to be reborn -- I just didn't realize I would be going to a funeral.
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...............................I just didn't expect to be emotional about the end of this phase of our lives because I was so excited about the next phase -- it caught me completely be surprise...................
It's best to have a joyful past to move on from. Any sorrow you have is a tribute to the life you've led, but it's also the experience that will insure your future success!
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Why is opting for the cruising life so different from the downsizing that so many older couples experience when they sell the big house in the suburbs and move into a smaller home? The kids are launched and there is no further need for 4-5 bedrooms and a family room.
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Why is opting for the cruising life so different from the downsizing that so many older couples experience when they sell the big house in the suburbs and move into a smaller home? The kids are launched and there is no further need for 4-5 bedrooms and a family room.
There is a difference between moving aboard to downsize, and going cruising.

If one downsized to living on a boat in a marina, it wouldn't be very different at all from downsizing to a small condo or apartment. It is still a stationary, connected existence.

Moving aboard to cruise seems like a much more drastic change, as one severs all ties to a single place and group of people. You don't have to tell anyone goodbye to move across town to a smaller place. Even if you retire to warmer climes, it is still just a single move, not permanent movement.

For me it has been a huge difference. It is saying goodbye to all of the constants in shore life, to make way for a succession of new people and places.

For instance, I never know what time it is, and when I find out it's 9pm, I never can believe it. I only know it's true because the spectacular sunset tells me so. In a condo I would still have a time based, routine based structured existence, even if I were retired. Cruising life is dictated more by weather and such things rather than schedules and appointments.

If I bought a condo, I'd be there a while. If I leased an apartment, probably the same. How long will I stay where I am today? Who knows?
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Totally agree with the above.
When we moved aboard and went cruising you even leave behind your country of birth and move somewhere where they no longer speak the same language and everthing is different. Just when we got used to it we moved to another country with yet another language.
There is no quick trip to the shop, tv, phone or wi fi when you are rolling around 100 miles from the nearest land.
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Totally agree with the above.
When we moved aboard and went cruising you even leave behind your country of birth and move somewhere where they no longer speak the same language and everthing is different. Just when we got used to it we moved to another country with yet another language.
There is no quick trip to the shop, tv, phone or wi fi when you are rolling around 100 miles from the nearest land.
well spoken. some adapt and thrive, most dont. otoh, "been there, done that" counts for a lot in life. either way, you grow. but always have a fall back plan just in case you want to jump ship. and sometimes, you may want to repeatedly join and jump ship. does not need to be one long continuous passage. i wound up working in various countries partly due to opportunities and partly because they were interesting places. in any event do it while your young. old age really cuts down on the pleasures of travel.
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Why is opting for the cruising life so different from the downsizing that so many older couples experience when they sell the big house in the suburbs and move into a smaller home? The kids are launched and there is no further need for 4-5 bedrooms and a family room.
Because Grama's Hutch that's been in the family for 100 years wont fit on the boat! Neither will 100 years of photographs...
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