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Old 01-02-2017, 14:20   #391
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Ditch wife -keep boat
Women are basically jealous of anything not directly involving them-or draws attention from them+they nor anone else knows what they wany-except attention of course.
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Old 01-02-2017, 14:28   #392
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Plus, if you remember, the guy decided to both keep the boat, and work it out with his wife!

This type of thread brings feminists and unhappy men out of the woodwork to get snarky. Let's just let it die a reasonable death, eh?

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I thought it had? It might should go to my wife hates my motorcycle or something. It's a personal thing, Maybe DR. Phil has a thread.

My wife never hated my scooter. If we are going to ride we will have two so we always did.
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Old 02-02-2017, 04:42   #393
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Francis Chichesters' wife did not sail on his yachts, so he sailed solo around the world, setting a record.
His wife also did not like flying, so he flew solo halfway around the world in the 1930's, before he ever began sailing.
This man pioneered solar navigation in an aircraft BEFORE WWII.
I met his wife in London in about 1978... after he had died, she had turned their little 3 story terrace house into a "Sir Francis Chichester" museum.
If you want to sail bad enough, and your wife doesn't, go ferkin sailing anyway... life is too short.
FOLLOW YOUR DREAM, NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S DREAM.
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Old 11-02-2017, 23:31   #394
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Re: Spouse hates my boat

Perhaps if you took a cruise ship you would see/hear praises.

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Old 12-02-2017, 01:08   #395
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Re: Spouse hates my boat

Two main thoughts (disclaimer from someone that has never been married..)
1) Love yourself enough to do what you love, life is too short to live with resentment and lost opportunities...
if your spouse loves you they will support your passions (unless they have a REALLY good articulable reason like they don't want to support your passion that is unhealthy, destructive, or overly dangerous for their risk tolerance..). If your passion is to ride a motorcycle but someone close to them died in a motorcycle accident extra sensitivity is definitely called for and best to start off with showing genuine interest and support for her passions (even if only being glad they bring her joy..) but don't give up sailing...
2) The boat might just be an innocent bystander caught in the crossfire of differences of opinion on priorities.. You mentioned that it is not a financial issue, but at the end of the day it may have to do with a different currency: Time, the true currency of life in general, boating, and relationships.. Given a scarcity of time with you, everything that you spend your time on without her is in effect time you are choosing to not spend with her.. May just be an issue of wanting more time with you, or initial experiences boating, both of which can be addressed by spending more time with shared joys, ideally creating new positive boating experiences, and while boating is a natural escape from stresses on shore make sure it is not being used as an escape from her as opposed to talking through things..

Wish you both the best :-)
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Re: Spouse hates my boat

again i ask--have you asked her why she hates your boat and what you can do to fix her dislike??
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The smart man always keeps the boat and gets rid of the wife. If the wife dosen't like boats, there is something seriously wrong with her.
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My wife read your post and suggested you keep the boat and put your wife on the market!


Another wife here seconds this!!
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Old 16-02-2017, 05:14   #399
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...audiatur et altera pars...!
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I have been a professional captain for over 35 years now. Cars as a hobby and an interest are looking more and more appealing.

What I am getting at and what might be the solution is to do something that you both love.
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My wife read your post and suggested you keep the boat and put your wife on the market!
-------------------- YEAH , JUST LIKE THAT !!!!!------------------
If The One You Love is so self centered ( SELFISH ) that YOUR Happiness doesnt matter to your ``Spouse``
MAYBE You could Better for Yourself AND Him /HER TOO !!!!
Marriage is SUPPOSED to be a PARTNERSHIP ( ``Ship`` , Get it ? )
Good Luck Brother , Stay True To Yourself , After all , If YOU arent Happy , How The H--- are Ya supposed to make someone else Happy ?
( Love Ya LOTS Rose , Yeah , I DO Know I`m a Lucky Man , Thanks for ``Letting Me `` Keep My Ratty`Ol Motorcycle & My Boat -- & SHARING Them WITH ME TOO--- 22 Yrs & Still Countin` ! )
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Not again...it's hopeless.
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But it wasn't hopeless. The OP decided to work it out with his good lady, and keep the boat. We'll never know how successful he was if he doesn't come back, but what he read here seemed to help him clarify his thinking.

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