I stumbled across this forum and am so thankful. After reading some of these posts I can totally understand how much my husband loved his boat. I knew it but I see it more after reading through your posts.
However, I also saw many family men
state - leave the wife if she has a problem with the boat. The boating life is beautiful when shared but it should not consume you. As the wife, I felt second priority to the boat. I don't think the wife in the original post was going to force the boat sale
? Maybe she wanted to know that you loved her more than your boat and she was just upset.
Placing the boat on hold and focusing on your family
is a great idea - then making her part of the decision to boat together would be a happy one for her. However, leaving her to boat solo all the time - not a good idea.
A little bit about me - Married for over 15years. For about 6 of those we started boating as a family. Husband wanted to get into it and we did and we enjoyed it for the most part. Although it took every penny to keep it. It was on water
3 months out of the year due to the climate we live in.
Husband was hooked and mortgaged a luxury yacht against my will. Recent years money
was very tight and he made the ultimate sacrifice. He sold the yacht, took a huge loss and we kept our home, kids
etc. He didn't want to and he highly resents me for it like many of the boaters in this forum said. Many problems began after this.
Like many of you said you would do - He left us, his family after this. He couldn't get over the loss of his boat and resented me. He quickly mortgaged a less expensive boat after selling the yacht. I knew boating was his life so I did not touch it in the legal
agreement; trying to avoid divorce but he won't reconcile after all this. I let him have the boat. He found a young beautiful girl - 10 years younger to share his passion with him among others that want to sip cocktails and enjoy the boating life.
All I know is a THING should not replace PEOPLE. Please work together to pursue the goal of family and boating. One party should not have all the say as to which boat, marina, route
, etc to take. Or basically they have already made it clear in their minds they are the captain
and the crew is easily replaceable.
I really pray you work things out with your wife and see things from her perspective too. Love endures all!