Originally Posted by johnnyforu
I must be the only one not on face book! I did get a cat..... Female one at that! Mate
Oh don't worry. I closed my account three years ago and I'm a sys admin which should make me keen to accept social networks and other new age stuff... Not so with FB.
I got in trouble more than once with my female students posting
their half naked pics on my wall. Wife wasn't a bit amused so I decided to close the whole thing.
Trust me, you're not loosing that much.
If you have a cat, be happy.
I remember once reading the adventures of a sailor online. I can't remember the guys name but he used to work for nasa and participated as a IT programmer in the Apollo missions. Anyway, the guy retired pretty early with his pockets full of money
and decided to sail around the world. From time to time, you could tell by his writings that he felt lonely and wanted female company. In his case, his problem was that he kept thinking that women would only be interested in his money
so he basically shut them off immediately. Kinda controversial wanting to find actively his better half and closing himself off being afraid that women might find his wallet more attractive than himself. Personally I don't agree. We seek looks and later on a mind that connects to ours and women first seek security
before anything else and in our society, money is security
Doesn't mean poor fellows like myself don't get lucky but it's easier for the more... "Secure" guys
Anyway, by my limited experience (I'm 39), the more you seek company, the more desperate you appear and the more you distance them.
Don't force it finding company and don't pretend you're something you're not.
Obviously you won't find your mate on your couch (well, except the cat) but don't try to find her in places you usually wouldn't go.
You like sailing, try to find her at a sailing club, boat show
or something sailing related. Unless you have common ground to talk about, it's not going to last.
Finally... Easy come easy go. I married the girl that I had to fight for the most. If it was hard for me, it would be hard for the other guy too
Just relax and enjoy the life without strings.
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